This post is very strange to me. I have been married for almost six years (with one kid so far) and these experiences are very different than the ones I and almost all of my married friends have had.
I suspect that it is partly because they are Christians and see marriage as a sacred vow more than a legal arrangement. Divorce is not an option when things get rough and there is a community of support for the marriages that are having trouble.
I agree with Mike from above: “The only “trick” to having a good marriage is finding the right woman to marry.” The same thing applies to women looking for men. With right defined as someone you enjoy spending time with, who you respect, who shares your values, and who you want your future kids to be like.
