Great advice. I’m a happily married man, because I was lucky enough to find the right woman. So marriage has been a great blessing in my life.
But I realize I’m extremely lucky, because I know my happiness is unusual. I know many men who are unhappy with their marriages, and i know many men who’ve been victimized by the legal system in the process of their divorce.
I have a son, and my advice to him is this: When you consider marriage, know what you are risking, because if your wife is unhappy with you and gets a good lawyer, you may wind up losing all contact with your children and you may become a wage slave to the child support system. Consider that carefully, and know that you are placing your hope for happiness in the hands of another. You are rolling the dice. If you are still sure, still confident you found the right woman, and willing to approach it a lifetime, irrevocable commitment – no matter what – then by all means do so. Thinking of it this way may give you the certainty you need to make the right choice.
And I would certainly give very similar advice to my daughters too. They are risking a great deal too.
