The Peter Pan Myth: The Real Reason Men Won’t Settle Down
Alessandro:
I kind of agree with Fred. When a woman initiates a divorce, many times she will instantly find “support” from a diverse group of people, all of who have selfish reasons for wanting the woman to get divorced, many times the guy doesn’t have a chance to save his marriage because he is competing with a committee of people who prefer the wife be divorced.
Bingo. The women is presumed innocent and victim, and that leaves only one role for the man to occupy.
It’s very simple. Even if only one in ten men end up getting hosed by the divorce court, most twenty-something men know someone, a father, an uncle, a big brother, a teacher, a friend’s father, someone who’s been through the meat grinder. The horror stories are enough to make anyone with any shred of common sense and self-preservation instinct not want to risk it.
Women complain that men aren’t risk-averse enough. The opposite is true.
