I left my wife on September 13th 2006.
I left her for a divorce which we were talking about for 3 years prior.We knew this was not working out and every day in the summer of 2006, my ex fought with my 9 year old boy. I broke up the fights. A month before I left, he pulled a large kitchen knife on her out of total frustration. I intervened. I reported it to his therapist and she denied that I did so. I filed with DSS Salem office about this abuse.
As I was leaving, her two girlfriends were there. One went inside the apartment with her while one waited in the car. She said she was giving me til Adam came home from school to be gone and wanted me gone well before he did. She said she was going to find out her rights.I told her to remember our amicable divorce agreement. I was to be able to call my son everyday if he wished and see him. We were not going to use him as a weapon during the divorce.
I left and called a day later, she told me that she got a restraining order against me and hung up. I called the court and the police station to let them know were I am so I can be served. I get the RO. It was for death threats against her and my son. I did no such thing. Was this her rights?
I showed up at court and she is there too. She is blurting out “Viagra” before the officials filed in several times laughing hard and dodging in and out of the court . We get infront of the judge and she starts to pour out tears and a fake cry. She spins a web of abuse, fear and death threats I never made. 6 months! the judge advises me to get a lawyer, which I cannot afford because of my disability income.
Febuary 2007 she calls me to try to tell me that she is dropping charges and lets me speak to my son on 2 occasions. The 3rd time she is trying to extort money from me.
March 26th 2007 the court appearance she tried to extend the order. The Judge gives me a No Abuse full contact and half custody modified 209A after I explained that she is not afraid of me and she called me.
I called the next day, phone number changed! I called her friend, the one that drove her to the first 209a. My ex calls the police department and a few days later I get a letter on cancellation of my license in 90 days due to a warrant for my arrest. I am 120 miles away from my ex.
I called the Beverly Mass police department and the officer said that I have a restraining order still active. I called the Beverly Mass police department again to speak to the chief of police. He said he would back me up if I showed up at Salem district court because I was in my full rights to contact her. I drove 120 miles to find out that he rescinded the warrant.
A week later in March 2007, I am in York Maine with my new girlfriend and her family in my minivan visiting a girlfriend of hers who just had a baby. I get pulled over by the York Police because I have a license plate light out. They have their lights shining on me and guns drawn telling me to get out of the vehicle with my hands up. They ask me if the women in the car is my ex. And if it is then we will both be arrested because there is still a restraining order active. They let us go with a warning.
I clear this with the court that there is no restraining order against me other than the No Abuse order which is the same document that a restraining order is issued on and looks like one. The cops don’t read well. I feel like I am in a perpetual nightmare! I am missing my son more and more everyday. I am in Therapy but the pain never stops.
In Late May of 2007 memorial day weekend, one of her other friends who was there calls me to recant her statement that she will beat up my new girlfriend that she made the day I left my wife. She also explains that my ex will not let me see my son unless I take her to family and probate court for visitation. I beg her to tell my ex to contact me to end this civilly.
I called her friend June 4th 2007 still under the impression that the no abuse with contact order is in effect to try to contact my ex and see my son. June 6th I get a new restraining order delivered to me by the West Springfield police. June7th, another RMV notice of a warrant and license suspension. I called the BPD to find out the RO was taken out June 5th and 4 hours later the violation of restraining order was called in by my ex. I never called June 5th! How can she lie and get away with it and me at risk of going to jail on perjury she committed????
I am in court for pretrial hearings. I have one November 2nd with an appointed lawyer Thomas Gately. He is trying to get funding for an investigation and get this dismissed or go to trial. Anyways, I have been arraigned on a lie! I have a Police record due to perjury done by my ex. I AM NOT A CRIMINAL! I am guilty of wanting to see my now 10 year old son. I did nothing wrong. All I wanted was a divorce from my wife, not my child.
