What I don’t understand is why anyone would want to pursue contact with a person who clearly does not desire that contact, whether or not the person filing the restraining order is lying (seriously, though, get a grip, few people lie about such things).
In all honesty, the effect restraining orders have on a non-abusive person are minimal; all they (aim to) do is prevent contact between two individuals. If you are not an abusive person, why would you want to have contact with someone who lies about you? If you were of sound mind, you would understand that the person who filed a falsified order is better out of your life, of course, if you have control issues this would enrage you. As far as children are concerned, there are many legal ways to maintain contact with children even though you and your (ex) spouse are estranged.
The sputtering rage at the notion of someone placing a restraining order on another strikes me as fraught with serious control issues (ie someone who is so rattled by this notion must have little to no self control and seeks to exert control arbitrarily over others).
In a nutshell, restricting restraining orders to preserve someone’s feelings (whether they are abusive or not) is really a pithy goal, and pales in comparison to the damage that will be done if restraining orders cannot be filed.
