I would like to say abou this whole women versus men in divorce and child custody cases that here in Michigan mostly Macomb County area that the Judges here are especially bias and are all for the mother. Let me start out by saying that I lived with my EX-Wife for several years before we got married, she seemed to be normal and a great woman but she changed after our first child. We argued alot and I tried to walk away to calm down, I would try to go outside she would sit down in front of the exit door she would grab me to try to talk to me I pleaded with her to let me leave and calm down so I could think. I would be at work I was a truck driver at the time and everytime she had a problem with my oldest son she would constantly call me and say she cannot deal with it well after a while of this I had to quit my job and become a stay at home father which made things even worse. She would always defer to me for any punishment to my children.
She worked for a bank at this time and when she tried to go back to work at the same bank after taking leave for having our first child they wanted to put her on roaming teller were she did not have the ame position she would have to drive around to different branches to work and with the baby we looked into child care and it was very expensive I was making 10.00 an hour and she was making about the same but my hours would put me were we could not pick up our child before the childcare closed for the day and the same went for her the banks closed at 6pm and 7pm if it was located in a supermarket. I as a truck driver had to work long hours like sometimes I would start work at 6am and not see my front door of my home till 9pm at night so i stayed home and took care of our child then she got tired of doing the roaming around from bank to bank so she suggested that we consider opening the first ever in our area 24 hour daycare She would work the day shift and I would work the night shift we would have children in our home from 4am till 2am I would sleep after the last child left but when the children started showing up at 4-5am in the morning she could not handle them and keep the ruckus down so I could sleep well one thing lead to another and I had a heart attack and then became diabetic and could not work a real job anymore which put me into alot of stress a depression but for the sake of my children and their safty i choose to stay in the marriage for my children. Then we had another child and he was born with a severe heart problem which he needed open heart surgery he spent 65 days in Childrens Hospital of Michigan.
Well anyway one thing led to another and our relationship with each other got worse and worse.
She always blamed me for our children not being normal and that becasue i was ADHD and I had a bad heart and diabetic that I passed this condition onto my children.
Well we would argue more and more and I would say do you want a divorce I am tired of this and I am tired of being blamed for everything this went on for about 4 more years.
Now I know domestic violence in tht domestic violence and i have never hit a woman in my life I dispise men that do I have even pulled over my car or if it was in a supermarket or what not if I saw anything like that i would step in and interviene.
Well any way my marriage ended in december 2004 due to domestic violence I never hit her we argued severely and she pushed me and I pushed her only to get past her and try to walk out the door well it all ended up her walking out the door and in 5 minutes the police were at the door to talk to me about what happened now please understand this is the first time the police have ever been called to my home EVER in regards to any kind of arguement even when our arguements were so harsh we never had CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES at our door or the POLICE.
Well as you can guess I was the one arrested and spent 10 days in county jail she served me with a personal protection order I never broke that order but she got the police and the courts to believe becasue she had been studing up and divorce and DV and even got legal aid to defend her in the divorce that she already had it set up and ready to go 6 months before this ever happened this was a planned manuver.
Well I went threw a divorce for 5 months with out a lawyer cause I could not afford one I was disabled and only making $700.00 a month try living on that their is no way you can pay your rent and all your utility bills and food and what not on $700.00 a month.
So anyway getting back to the matter at hand i finally found a Legal aid lawyer threw the Salvation Army in Southeastern Michigan the only one around, I could not use the legal aid service she was useing cause it was considered supposedly a conflict of interest or was it, the legal aid service was all women now why would a female lawyer defend a man in a divorce if their was DV involved so they hide behind the law of conflict of interest.
Well anyway the Divorced happened and I had to prove to the courts that I was not a danger to my children even when I had several reports from court counselors saying I was not a danger. the court referred to what up here in Michigan Call FRIEND OF THE COURT in all actuallity it is called FRIENd OF THE C***. Sorry but that is what it is called here in michigan by all people here this supposedly FRIEND OF THE COURT is so biased that it does not matter how good you are and what proff you can show your the better parent no matter what experts you have proving that you are the better parent.
I love my childen very much I would do anything for them but the system does not see it that way. Even if the mother puts the children in HARMS WAY everyday.
She live next door to a convicted drug dealer she hangs out with him she lets my boys run around the neighborhood where their are atleast on record 29 pedophiles living in the neighborhood.
My oldest is so mad at her for what she did to me and what she continues to do to him and my youngest she has called the police on him he is now only 11 years old.
Now think of this at the time a 9 year old goes into a rage and starts throwing things at MOM and so forth that she called the police and had him committed to a mental hospital.
No let me alaborate a little further the daycare center closed after we had our youngest child cause of all the medical problems he had so the parents went to other providers.
Sorry for the confusion but I am trying to remember as much as possible at the time I am typing.
Now if your wondering were 29 pedophiles how they are living in our neighbor hood it is becasue it is a trailer park.
Now if your wondering why have I not done anything about all this stuff going on I have I have tried to inform the court and friend of the court and child protective services and they refuse to do anything about it.
My oldest son has been alienated he has no friends no one want to be his friend and the ones that do are trouble makers. I want so badly to take both of them from their and give them a new start in a new town in a new school with new people to make good friends but no one will listen.
I still make under $800.00 a month and i can not afford an attorney I have tried ever legal avenue to get help from a lawyer but none exist that does not want atleast $5000 down to start that could run into thousands more with no guarantee that I will win or get any kind of better result.
Now while I can say that I really do not know if my EX really loves my boys or not but the one thing I am sure of is the only reason she fights for them is becasue of the SSI Disability she gets for them. oh by the way did I mention she does not really work at all she lives off the boys money.
I have tried to talk to local newspapers and Tv stations I have even called and talked with my senators and representatives but all anyone cares about in the State of Michigan is keeping the status quo.
I know this has been a long winded story and i am sorry for any incovience this has caused but here it is the truth and nothing but the truth. If anyone out their has any ideas or where i can turn to for help and support especially a lawyer that specializes in child custody please contact me at
presbyterianparent@yahoo.com
Thanks for reading and listening to my story.
I pray and hope all who read this that is truely concerned for their children may our Lord Jesus protect us all from our corrupt state laws and court system.
GOD BLESS
JS
