I represented mostly men in my few family law cases/harassment cases, and they came to me because I was aggressive, and because they had decided not to simply give up.
But most men do give up in these situations, even when they have the money to fight. Now that I’m working for a court I hear about that over and over. When they do fight back against such abuses they tend to win. I’ll be looking at that first hand when I go into the family law rotation.
What is going on here is that the instances of true contests are resolved in court and so don’t make the news. Furthermore each man fights his battle alone – there is no continuity or institutional memory for true contested actions beyond that of the litigators and judges.
As Mr. Sacks noted, women have support groups and foundations which spend money on lobbying legislators for their side in these matters. Men don’t. I repeat, most men don’t fight these abuses and those that do fight them as individual battles within the judicial system. There simply is no institutional opposition to the abuses described.
Consider the possible reasons for that, particularly in light of the fact that most men don’t even oppose this stuff as individuals.
