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Oh, Joe, give her a second chance.

If she’s been taking women’s magazine advice–she’s trying to dazzle you with her uniqueness. You were basically front-row at a long, long advertisement. If she was talking the whole time, and possibly fidgeting a little- she was trying to hold your attention enough that you’d be so dazzled that you would call her again. She’s trying to be individual and different than all her friends, and all your possible ex- girlfriends, or potential girlfriends.

So, give her a second chance, and find out if she’s calmed down enough to be interested in you.

I didn’t learn to ask questions and follow up by regular dating. I’m horrid at that- the first two guys I crushed on, I stood up- they were so perfect I was sure they’d stand me up first. The next beautiful guy tells me we had the worst first date he’d ever had. The most beautiful man I ever saw- and now my husband- tried to break up with me regularly, for the first few months- it was that bad.

I learned the asking things bit when a friend and I decided to make a self- help game of dating. We’d go out with guys, and chart where they’d been. We had flaws–frizzy hair, short, plain, glasses, ferocious shyness- you name it, we had it- but we had a sense of adventure. So, we’d go out with anyone. And we had to remember where they’d been, so that meant asking about stories, and trying to remember them. And to win, that meant going out with terrifying guys- older, military, world travellers, geeks supreme ( electronics factories in the far east- score!) It got fairly competitive fairly fast, and other friends got into it, too. So, dating competitiveness kicked in. Being, um, not a model like my roommate, and so on, I started researching how to deal with people, b/c I wanted to win, not ” I want to find Prince Charming.”

A regular girl can’t stand up to that standard. Try again, and see if she calms down.