There’s a difference between not wanting kids and wanting them but delaying it indefinitely if your wife wants them and you have agreed.
The first choice I can respect. The second – not so much. As one commenter pointed out, fertility can’t be taken for granted in a woman’s 30′s. You could be dooming her to uncomfortable, unpleasant, and expensive fertility treatments that can play havoc with her health. Also, since women usually make much of the life/career sacrifices for kids, she should have a major say in the timing. You can delay to have fun in your 30′s, but you pay the price in your late 40′s and 50′s. You have a kid at 30 — by age 40, they are 10 and while not independent, big enough to take care of themselves to a relative extent. You put it off till 38 — and you are still changing diapers at 40. And when you are 50 — you either have a 20 year old off at college or work, or you have a 12 year old at home.
And when you decide to “do your kid time” on the late side — you have less energy to deal with it…
So if you think you’re getting away with something by delaying childbearing – think again!
