proud elitist – No, I haven’t spawned anything. I’m not a fish. I DO have two daughters. They’re both truly beautiful. They are happy, well-adjusted, well-behaved children. They are 2.5 years apart, and are best friends. People love to have my children come over, because their kids leave off the video games and go play outside, or make believe, or draw, or… you get the picture. They are old-fashioned kids, and everyone always, always compliments me on them.
They are this way, because I’m old-fashioned. I provide discipline, guidance, motivation, and lots and lots of love. We aren’t rich, but my kids are the happiest around.
My ex and I fought all the time. The fights were always about power. She’d swallowed all this nonsense, and insisted on being in control. Of course, our finances were a mess, as a result of her mismanagement. I’ve, on the other hand, have always been very good at managing my money, except when I’ve sometimes been generous to a fault.
When I went blind from my diabetes, my wife kicked me out, as I couldn’t support her anymore. I have a bit of my vision back, and so am minimally functional. Interestingly, after a few years, my ex now has more respect for me now than she ever did when we were married. She has been forced to make her own money, and balance her own budget. Changed her view some.
I live a mile away, to be close to my kids and provide them with the father they need. My ex sees this, and greatly appreciates the support and reliability. It provides her endless confidence and security.
I’ve never pursued another relationship. We were together 17 years, and I married for life. This prevents any worry on her part, as she knows I’m completely devoted to the welfare of my kids above all else. I recently lent her $1,000 (which is a lot for a guy who draws SSDI) to help her get a new car after the old one died. It’s telling that she asked me for the loan.
So, call me sexist if you want, but I always believed in taking care of, and protecting my woman. I never cussed at her. I always held doors and chairs for her. I’ve always been generous in time, money, and spirit. I also did more than my share of chores and raising the kids. A woman needs emotional security, and financial security to be happy. I’ve always tried my best to provide that. What good is a man who won’t do these things for his woman?
