Marriage only benefits women and this is even truer of divorce. Until the playing field is leveled to the point where no gender bias exists, I’ll never get married again.
I put her through school, asked her to work from day one, as that had always been the agreement, worked in this country whilst going to school and sleeping on the floor so that I could save for a life here, pay my rent and support them back home whilst she was going to school, only to have her refuse to work once I got her here, never respect my want and need to also be a parent to my daughter, have her tell me that the money that I worked so hard for was hers as well, and to this day, she still lords my little girl over my head, and last but not least, she was physically abusive once. I was a very good husband, not perfect, but very, very good and I honestly used to love her so much that I had even crawled across landmines just to be with her (Russia and closed cities), and I am telling you very clearly that I do not feel that way about her now.
Fortunately, I am not a victim, as that would render me powerless and what she did, was my fault, because I allowed it to go on in my life, but suffice it to say, that I will never, ever get married again. I’d rather burn in hell. Stripped of the one human that matters to me and why? So my ex can have more money (she still isn’t self supporting. I’ll never do it again. Never.
To make matters worse, the family courts, judges, attorneys and the soon to be ex-wives all figure to make out handsomely at the financial expense of the men, no matter how good of a person he is and was. The aforementioned do not care at all about the child’s right to a father, a father’s right to the child or the fact that many children do not make out well at all in single mother households. The facts are clear. Sadly, people still pretend that the facts aren’t the facts due to their continuing greed.
Women squawk about wanting equal rights, there are multiple examples of women that are extremely successful in their careers (Carly Fiorina ad infinitum), yet women have ZERO problem with making excuses for themselves as “mothers,” “victims,” yet touting your self sufficiency and equality EXCEPT when you’re busy having family court take what are his children too and HIS money.
You ought to be ashamed of yourselves, but of course you’re not and until you are and until things are equal, I’ll forego marriage. It just isn’t worth it.
ps. Many of you will say that women don’t make out any better from a divorce than a man does, but we all know better. I see it everyday at work. I don’t know how many men have come back from deployment to find out that she is having sex with someone else, filed for divorce, took the kids and half, and now she wants alimony too. Pathetic.
