Abuse Industry Paves the Royal Road to the Welfare State
It’s simple. First, we launch public awareness campaigns designed to convince women that their beau is a latent axe-murderer. Watch Lifetime TV — you’ll probably see a clip about the “cycle of abuse.” Pay a visit to the doctor’s, and the nurse will ask if your boyfriend ever raises his voice. That’s considered abuse these days. Go to the office bathroom, and you’ll see a sticker advertising the local abuse hotline.
Next, we pass laws that selectively gut due process and the presumption of innocence. Soon word gets out — get married and the state may plunder your assets, your home, and your children. Marriage, eligible bachelors decide, isn’t a smart lifestyle option.
Then, we slap a $25 abuse shelter fee on marriage licenses, sending the scary message that you, married person, may end up looking like the back end of a meat grinder. (No need to remind the newlyweds that abuse rates in the intact married family are close to zero.)
Finally, we never, ever admit that women can be abusive, too. Shhhhh! (The research shows women are just as likely as men to slap, hit, punch, and kick their mates. But we can’t let that out. Keep it under your hat!)
The Census Bureau recently reported that, for the first time, there are fewer people currently married than there are people who have never married in the prime wedding demographic of 25 to 34 year olds. The portion of adults who are married — 52%, compared with 72% in 1960 — is the lowest in history.
So there you have it. Fifteen years after passage of the federal Violence Against Women Act, domestic violence programs have become the hulking engine of marital breakdown, institutionalized welfare dependency, and a galloping entitlement mindset. So much for progress.
I think this article is very silly. And I suggest that people ignore the scary music and just read the bill for themselves:
Here’s one source, I’m sure there are others: http://e-lobbyist.com/gaits/text/60936
All this does is
(a) give somebody who has made an official complaint to the police (and they do have to supply documentation) to change the locks, or to have the landlord change them. It protects the landlord from any legal claims coming from the person who has been shut out as a result.
(b) prevent a landlord from kicking somebody out BECAUSE there has been domestic violence occurring. It’s not a carte blanche right to tenancy, the rent still has to be paid (by all liable parties), and there are appeal processes for nuisance applications. The landlord CAN still evict the tenant if the tenant doesn’t follow a set of rules while the law is being applied.
Get a grip. Seriously. If a woman (or man) is being beaten up by their spouse, I can’t see any problem with trying to slow the process of them being kicked out of their home as well. It makes life harder for the cops, makes life harder on any dependents, makes it harder for the abusee to make a break from the abuser and isn’t something that most reasonable people would regard as a decent outcome. As impositions on landlords go, this really isn’t a biggie.
“I can’t see any problem with trying to slow the process of them being kicked out of their home as well.”
Just as long as you, Matthew, are personally paying the landlords’ mortgages while the abused “adjust” to life w/o their abusers, “I can’t see any problem with try to slow the process” either. Has anyone noticed that losers & the losers who constantly come to their defense are never taxPAYERS?
But, the tenant still has to pay the rent! And it’s not a permanent injunction.
For crying out loud, PLEASE just read the bill.
well send them money then matthew. no one here is stopping you.
oh right you want my money to send them not yours. sorry. not big on personal responsiblity are you matthew.
nothing is free …even if you steal it from your neighbor.
parasites and produces …I have no doubt which you are.
Who’s asking for money? There’s nothing in this law which says the tenant doesn’t have to keep paying the rent.
Well Matthew, now the incessant drumbeat to prevent landlords from gleefully evicting victims of suspected abuse can finally stop. How many decades has this massive problem gone unsolved? What kind of a society are we? Why do we allow landlords to live anyway?
Personally, this monstrous problem had forced me into a sleepless state.
Thank god a government has finally taken the time from its busy schedule to solve the crisis once and for all.
If you google it, you’ll discover that support groups cite it as a serious problem. Here, I’ll do it for you:
http://www.google.com.au/search?q=victims+domestic+violence+evicted
Just because you haven’t heard of something doesn’t mean it’s not a problem. You probably haven’t heard of “elder abuse” either.
Just another law that feeds into the “victim” mentality in this country. And just another law for the government to step in and “take care” of those silly little people who can’t seem to take care of themselves. Watch out California, as well as the people who live in the rest of America. Pretty soon the state and Federal governments will determine that you are unable to protect yourself against anything and they will have to do everything for you. Then all of your rights really will be gone, because you’ll only be able do whatever the state or Federal government will allow you to do, especially when you’re dependent on them for everything, from your job and food and education, to where you live. Great having the government take care of you, isn’t it, especially when high taxes to pay for all of this doesn’t allow you any other option?
Could we abolish the alimony with no-fault divorce?
could we abolish child support?
Redefine abuse as physical abuse only?
Have a reasonable definition of rape that don’t consider the “I have change my mind, after, so it is rape” mindset.
“Social scientists note that family disintegration is primarily to blame for chronic inter-generational poverty. And as Table 35 of this Justice Department report reveals, crimes of family violence are seven times higher among divorced or separated couples than among those in intact married relationships.”
I am a big advocate of marriage and two-parent families, but wouldn’t it be safe to say that some of those divorced or separated couples may be in that state DUE TO abuse? If one spouse is abusing the other, and they separate, it’s feasible that the abuse would still continue. Intact married relationships, by their very existance, would logically have less family violence or they wouldn’t be “intact” to begin with. A better statistic would be one that shows the relationship between domestic violence and couples who never marry.
Agreed; I was wondering about that stat myself.
Our government,with several nudges from the lunatic liberals… have determined that the world is over-populated. Hence we are now a country that approves of gay marriage(can’t reproduce),single couples get tax breaks where married couples do not,ObamaCare trying to push federal funding for abortion. They are now trying to make divorce easier for us….. do you see how your government is attempting to destroy the family setting that God gave us?
You forgot one thing.
The primary reason for having a monitored alarm system: the jealous ex-boyfriend will bash your door down one stormy evening. Your head is next to be bashed, save for the clean-cut, articulate alarm employee whose reassuring voice and smiley face advises the police of your impending demise.
Mainstream fear and “reality”.
Exactly; it is so amazingly disrespectful and pervasive. Reality sometimes, and therefore a small clip or “idea” planted that it can also be used for other types of break-ins would be much better.
Once you grow up hating men via television, seeing them as perfect candidates for assault (their groins usually) with the mandatory desensitization, lack of caring, even laughter involved, it doesn’t get any more disrepectful to the essence of men than that. Once things are difficult as they always will be in marriage, the groin kick may or may not get substituted for a Governmental kick by a mere statement from a bad woman. She won’t merely say I want more stuff and pleasure; she’ll “smartly” exaggerate and destroy. So then I ask, how do men preempt that, if they ever can? (well they will somehow – BTW hitting women in marriage is very wrong – and that’s not to say the women have not been known to egg on men repeatedly and derogatorily – smarter men should see she won’t get under “control” and they’re going down a losing path where excess rebounds badly for all).
Men will just not going to be perfect enough to deal when they routinely receive disrespectful, abusive words and family-divisive actions – any more than women.
There must remain the usual economics of survival that both partners face, and it helps. My wife and I are now (several years) at the peak of love – not through counseling which would have killed it (went once; it was nearly the straw that broke the camel’s back) – but by DEALING WITH EACH OTHER. Making a deal and not breaking it.
I am a surety agent, bail bondsman and bounty hunter, in Michigan. My company does between 5 and 10 Domestic bonds a week and about a 1000 bonds a year. My best estimate of Domestics is that roughly 95% are a shouting match with no physical contact (how do I know this, I get to see virtually all of the VICTIMS and they tell me so). A neighbor, in-law, child, spouse calls 911 and someone IS going to jail. Almost always the male.
Out of 10 Domestics we see repeats ALL THE TIME. I would estimate 1 out of three will have a repeat within two weeks. Often it is a disgruntled neighbor, in-law, child or spouse trying to get back at the defendant and they see them (They see them or claim they saw them at the mall, whereever) and call the authorities and the police go pick them up, no questions asked. Don’t even need to be near the ‘Victim’ and the victim may not even agree with the re-arrest, BUT that doesn’t matter. It’s the law
Currently I have a client who is at level 4 which is where the charge changes to aggravated stalking and most likely prison time. He is in a divorce situation and to say his wife is angry would be putting it mildly. He has not seen his soon to be ex-wife since February or talked to her, but she has been doing things like setting up emails for him and sending herself nasty statements. Or she saw him walking down the street or driving his car somewhere and felt threatened and yes he gets re-arrested.
The Prosecutor is well known in this county for being a horror show when it comes to Domestic and the judge is sort of an odd duck. In any event the defendant is now sitting on a $125,000 bond (I have never seen a bond this big on a domestic) and the prosecutor is trying to put him away in the Big House in Jackson with a plea bargain. Plea bargains are the norm and there are a zillion ways for a prosecutor to use this tool to twist the arm of guilty and not guilty individuals into taking a plea.
From a guy in the trenches, trust me on this one, you are guily until proven innocent in the this country. Furthermore prosecutors have more power than God or judges and the system often doesn’t work as intended (good law gone bad). At least that’s what I see all the time.
Domestic in our business is bread and butter and the worst law on the books in my view other than the Driving with restricted license law here in Michigan which is even more insane.
Domestic Violence laws are the most abused laws in this country. It is contantly useed as a weapon in the poor communities and children against parents trying to discipline (not physically, verbally) their children. Good law gone bad and apparently now even worse in that great failed state of Caleeforneea.
Are their real Domestic Violence incidents, ABSOLUTELY, but they are the exception not the rule. You can believe me or not, don’t really care. OOPPs, gotta go gotta post bond another Domestic bond. MMmmmm Pay day.
What you say rings true. “Progressives” love to take highly sympathetic and worthy casues like domestic abuse and drunk driving and push society into frienzied and sometimes bizarre over-reactions. But there are a lot of jobs and a lot of control at stake – and a lot of emotional payoff posturing as society’s saviors. In the end, the original problems usually do not get solved sufficiently and many new ones are created.
Stunning. Thanks, bro. I’ve seldom felt so helpless. It’s just not nice knowing you can’t defend yourself if you’re a man – from anything – after growing up with dreams, just like anyone else.
California has long accepted, coddled and walked the sleazy road of the degraded mindset. Like as happened in muslim lands, this produces a stupid, sluggish, thoughtless people. All of their previous brilliance is lost and replaced with the crude and base of their choice.
I am not surprised at just about anything that comes out of dumb California. They have chosen wrongly and therefore can only get ever more of what is wrong for them. Keeping in mind, that there is no such thing as it can’t get worse, it probably will.
They need to return to the Lord and beg forgiveness.
I wouldn’t mind all of these abuse laws if both parties were banned from breeding and long as this order was enforce. Penalty for attempted breeding should be mandatory prison time. In most cases the kids would be better off in an orphanage anyway.
Well, having just celebrated 25 years of marriage and about 28 yrs with the same woman at the age of 48, having thrown stuff at each other and knocked each other around at the beginning of this journey, I can say that I am glad the state didn’t get involved.
Because now I am the state. And the crap I see involving families destroyed by the mandatory orders of protection and anger management are just manifold.
Like everything else, we get what we vote for. We put people in who put these laws in. Now it is time to reverse course, and elect people who want less laws and less money spent on government, period.
How does the saying go? If you subsidize it (victims of “domestic” abuse) you will get more of it, and if you tax or penalize it (the marital bond) you will get less of it. There’s no mystery here.
Tcobb, you and Rick are brilliant. And yes, Mrs. and I – happiest couple in the world I believe! – had one broohaha, and one book throwing (I didn’t know it would actually hit her face – tough one that). Thank God there was common sense in our house. Otherwise my 3 perfect children (grown) would have turned out quite differently, I’m certain. After all, I clearly kept media to a minimum and you can hardly find a more loving 3 (not just smiling and backstabbing – the norm on television). My beautiful spouse is from another country and TV would have ruled as education had I not been in the picture. Yes – we watch TV and know harsh realities as well – we’re just not immersed and making an evening of them.
v.a.w.a. has cost us 10′s of billion$ since its inception. it gets a slurry of last minute (no vote) nasty feminist inspired attachments, is never questioned by congress and has almost never had a vote cast against it. also, there is little to no accounting for the funds.
99.9999% all domestic violence funding is spent on women. even men trying to shield their children from abusive, and sometimes deadly women are turned away from the shelters, and will be prosecuted for domestic violence when the woman complains. the facts do not matter. many states have automatic arrest laws aimed only at men.
this automatic handout to feminist groups is what fuels these insane laws. congress is afraid of feminist groups, as evidenced by the automatic yes voting records of almost ALL of congress in the past. women’s groups using lawyers to milk the taxpayers and get their way. gosh, who woulda thunkit?
Domestic Violence laws are gender biased. If you are a guy, you are toast, with no due process, no rights, no anything. If she says you did whatever, regardless of how outrageous the charge, you go to jail. Simple, end of story. Women in my county…(COLLIER FLA) own the system. It is run by harridans who consider all men serial killers and rapists….and their irrational fear and loathing of men translates into their work. It sucks…and perhaps the pendulum will swing back to a more sane level eventually…but for now..and for the past twenty years….a woman’s finger pointing at a man is essentially a guaranteed trip to jail..to court..and then to anger management. IT sucks! It’s reality. Check the court records here…and see for yourself! There is no due process for men here. No rights, no facing the accuser, nothing but guaranteed loss of income to women who hate your guts for being the worst thing you can be in their myopic minds….a man!
We had a couple shacking up next door (opps, was that out loud?) in a rental who fought regularly, and one evening the woman came pounding on our door for protection from her boyfriend.
Police, firetrucks and ambulance at our place, she was brought to the hospital (a big thanks and call out to taxpayers) spent a few hours crying and talking to cops, the boyfriend was hauled off in handcuffs.
Next day she said NONE of it happened, that WE made it all up because we were mean and didn’t like them. (A little late, considering the police interview) sooooo the boyfriend moves back in, the fights resume, and we are subpoenaed to court to testify against lover boy. When we then show up in the courtroom, he suddenly decides to plead guilty and avoid a harsher sentence…a waste of our time.
It’s become a racket, too many of these women/men don’t want to live sanely, they just want someone to feed their kids, pay their bills, fix the kicked in door, and donate new furniture to replace what’s laying out in the yard. Oh, yeah, and call for the taxpayer provided ambulance, in that their sweetie has ripped the phone out of the wall.
Nope, not gonna open the door again…sorry.
I have come to the understanding that politicians are afraid of very, very little. They do not fear the feminists, nor the muslims, nor the wrath of the people.
It would appear the only thing they do fear; is not doing EXACTLY what they want to do. So when these crittercongressmen pass a idiot law, it is time we understood, that is exactly what THEY want.
When David played the madman to the King of a neighbouring country; what was the King’s reply? Incensed that David was there, the King said “what have I not enough fools about me already?”
So things never change.
California, when you go broke this year, don’t expect any help from the sane.
The House of Representatives is not controlled by your cousins anymore.
Sule
Nailed this one.
As an ex-cop I can tell you 1st hand that it i sthese laws that get abused way more than anything else. We had a kid accuse his parents of child abuse for refeusing ti buy him a car when he turned 16. It fizzled but they are in the system forever. Abuse is the battle cry of the divorcee, especially if they want custody. I have seen more cases that I can count and as noted by so many others all it takes is to raise your voice or a totally unfounded accusation. Mistresses are also learning they can be covered as well. Let that thought sink in if you are even considering falandering (perhaps that should be considered a plus).
I dodged this bullet by staying single until I was 44 and them marrying a woman from another country who has what we would call ‘old world’ values. If I did anything evil she’d either leave me or kill me (or have family do it) but she’d never allow the state into our lives. Now that is the kind of rugged independence that built America. God I love that woman!
Here, here – I second that.
In both directions old world values work. Honor the sexual differences, RESPECT THEM, and sure when s*** gets too much, someone’s getting killed or crippled – even if the kids don’t get it. They’ll know something happened. But certain things can’t be done no matter what without adequate, decent, fair and equal payback. Break up my family on bull****? Someone will going down (followed by me, naturally). You have to fight for what you believe in.
Domestic violence breaks up families.
False prosecutions of domestic violence by feminist prosecutors break up more families, though. It’s an industry. A sham. A political prosecution.
My alarm clock is rather violent.
Everyday is a fight.
As Plato said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”