My Murdered Friend
It was last April that I decided to write a short story based loosely on the Gerry episode — both the brief romance itself and the not-so-long epistolary aftermath. How I came to the decision to write a story about something now so distant in both time and space is a story in itself, but not relevant here. (I wrote a good deal of fiction until 2003 and this — with a couple of small exceptions — marked the first time that I returned to doing so in earnest.)
Before starting the story, I thought it would be worthwhile to get back in touch with Gerry. Both in itself, and possibly to help revive and clarify memories. Back in the early 1970s, one wrote letters by hand — in Gerry’s case, on stationery; in mine, probably on any old paper — and waited a week or two for them to traverse the distance between northwestern Canada and northeastern America. But now there was an Internet, and I Googled Gerry’s full name along with “British Columbia.” The second item that came up, from the site Ancestry.com, told me that she had died in Vancouver on June 13, 1973 — at the age of nineteen, about a year and a half after our correspondence had ended.
I was, naturally, taken aback by this. One would be in any case; but it seemed, in Gerry’s case, all the more incongruous since she was an active, upbeat, very mentally healthy person.
So it was even more disconcerting to find out — using clues from her letters and further online inquiries — that she was a murder victim. On that night, June 13, 1973, Gerry — having graduated with honors as an X-ray technician — was walking a friend to a bus stop a few blocks away from another stop where they had missed the last bus. The perpetrator had no personal connection with Gerry but was lying in wait in the darkness. Apparently after her friend had gotten on the bus, he came toward her; she tried to run away, but he chased after her and shot her. An apprentice house painter who had stolen the gun from a house he was painting, he was finally apprehended three years later, convicted, and sent to prison.
God bless her. Her murderer deserved much harsher punishment.
Thanks, David.
Gently told, but if one dwells on it it will be devastating. For what little it’s worth, I offer my condolences across the internet.
And I second David Thomson’s position.
Truths that are decades old, yet newly revealed to us can still be shocking and unsettling. It can feel unfair that we did not mourn in real time, but are mourning in a time out of place.
Years after I moved away, I found out that a young man who I was fond of in High School had been killed in a plane crash shortly after graduation. For many years (pre-internet) I had occassional thought of him, believing that he was well into adulthood and living life.
It was disconcerting to be informed that his days were cut short, that most of life’s large experiences (courting, marrying, having a family, achieving a goal) were not his to have.
It makes me think what a treasure each day is.
Do your mourning, David. You are honoring her memory. What would she think if she knew that forty years later, her life and death would still carry weight beyond that of a summer romance.
Thanks, Joan, for the wonderful words.
The man who killed my friend, bludgeoning him to death with a baseball bat, is serving 45 years to life. I’ve written 3 books about it, soon to write a 4th. It doesn’t go away. Twenty years on, I can still smell the rotting blood on the concrete floor of his sunporch.
I’m sorry bonny, for your suffering. Time does not heal all wounds.
“For what little it’s worth, I offer my condolences across the internet.”
I second that.
Thirded.
David, I’m so sorry for all the relatives and friends you lost through murder. The cruel murderers will all receive their proper punishment from God.
From all those years ago, you kept Gerry’s letters! She surely lit up your life more than you realized! What a lovely young woman who wrote that she would be your friend eternally! Rest in eternal peace, dear Gerry, and all of David’s dear relatives and friends.
Yes,I kept the letters and thought about her from time to time, always. But didn’t realize tll rereading them now what unusual qualities she had. The loyal, sweet, kind, and personable don’t grow on trees. Well, better that wisdom comes late than never.
I am touched by this story and the heartfelt comments that accompany it. Thank you all.
Thank you for this story. If only the internet had more of this kind of writing…
Thanks for sharing. There are so many dimensions to this.
As a Christian at age 66, I can look back on all the different perspectives I have taken on the crime and punishment issue, especially for the ultimate crime of murder. Half of my brain still wants to exact an eye for an eye. The other half tells me that I may someday have to stand before a judgmental yet merciful G-d. I do not want to explain to Him why I was part of any group that denied (via capital punishment) another creature of His creation the ability to ask for and receive salvation for their sin.
In short, lock ‘em up to protect society, but don’t execute ‘em, because two wrongs don’t make a right.
And as for your personal pain and loss, ask your Rabbi for help in handing over to G-d those things that are too heavy to bear. G-d is indeed known for tempering the wind to the shorn lamb.
You’re wrong, McTerminal. The only way to stop this behavior is to make the would-be perps understand that if they take a life wrongfully and deliberately, their own is forfeit, and the forfeit will be required quickly. Anything less emboldens the criminals and shows that society thinks less of the dead victim than of their live murderer. Mercy for the guilty is injustice to their innocent victims.
thank u all for kind and sensitive comments. i’ll be back to true online access on sunday…
I am sixty two. Forty five years ago our best friend died. He committed suicide. For a long time my twin brother and I wondered what we missed, what we had done to make him take that turn. I never did find out. But for a long time, years maybe decades, I was angry with him for not sharing that pain he obviously felt. And I was angry with myself for not knowing and doing something about that which was going to kill him.
I’ve forgiven John for dying. And I’ve forgiven myself for not being a better friend. In our group of friends and family, he was the “third twin”. I know what brief but everlasting friendships mean, now. I loved him then. But boys didn’t talk about that. I still think about him. Imagine that. My twin and I still as old men wonder about the flower of youth. And how quickly it can die but also how that friendship can continue to be everlasting, Your brief story brought all of this back to
me this summer afternoon and I’m glad it did. Thank you.
Mr. Hornik,
Finding out when it actually happened while you were still so young may have changed you in ways you can’t even imagine. Having been there could have been even worse. The murder I witnessed in 6th grade was not of a “boy friend” but a friend nonetheless. He was an adult but he had taken me and my family in while we were essentially homeless.
The woman who did it used the broken jaw my mother gave her when she tried to run as an excuse to kill him. (She claimed *he* did that to her and so it was self-defense… despite the fact that she shot him in the back.)
She got 6 months, time served. I got horrible memories hard to share and this strange thing my brain does when it comes to trying to figure out how old I was that night. (I can remember I was in the 6th grade but I cannot figure out what my age was, no matter how I try.)
So many problems in my life sparked from that night. I will never know who I would have become or where my life would be today had that woman not shot him because she was high, drunk and messed up in the head. She killed that person as much as she murdered that dear man.
I’m now 38 years old. That night still sits in my brain and regularly comes to the forefront despite the fact that I rather not think about it. It’s something no one I knows understands. Not even my mother who was there. It *is* a lonely thing to live with. But I deal with it and am much better at it than I was years ago.
I wish you all the best.
Heather
And I thank you for this heartfelt response.
This is a deeply troubling and painfully moving story. We all may have regets about missing an experience or a time of life, or a person we might have had a closer connection with. But here what is spoken about is a whole life and future which have been taken.
I thank David Hornik for giving us a sense of the beautiful soul who lost her life too soon.