Ina href=”http://drhelen.blogspot.com/2007/01/cathy-young-reflects-on-her-fruitful-6.html” a prior post/a, commenter titurator veritatis mentioned this a href=”http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=430702in_page_id=1770in_page_id=1770expand”emDaily Mail /emarticle /aon “Erin Pizzey, founder of the battered wives’ refuge, on how militant feminists – with the collusion of Labour’s leading women – hijacked her cause and used it to try to demonise all men.” br /br /blockquoteMen can be accused of violence towards their partners and sexual abuse without evidence. Courts discriminate against fathers and refuse to allow them access to their children on the whims of vicious partners. br /br /Of course, there are dangerous men who manipulate the court systems and social services to persecute their partners and children. But by blaming all men, we have diluted the focus on this minority of men and pushed aside the many men who would be willing to work with women towards solutions. br /br /I believe that the feminist movement envisaged a new Utopia that depended upon destroying family life. In the new century, so their credo ran, the family unit will consist of only women and their children. Fathers are dispensable. And all that was yoked – unforgivably – to the debate about domestic violence. br /br /To my mind, it has never been a gender issue – those exposed to violence in early childhood often grow up to repeat what they have learned, regardless of whether they are girls or boys. br /br /I look back with sadness to my young self and my vision that there could be places where people – men, women and children who have suffered physical and sexual abuse – could find help, and if they were violent could be given a second chance to learn to live peacefully. br /br /I believe that vision was hijacked by vengeful women who have ghetto-ised the refuge movement and used it to persecute men. Surely the time has come to challenge this evil ideology and insist that men take their rightful place in the refuge movement. br /br /We need an inclusive movement that offers support to everyone that needs it. As for me – I will always continue to work with anyone who needs my help or can help others – and yes, that includes men. /blockquotebr /br /I was just at the gym watching emFox News /emdiscuss a case where a woman in Brooklyn is angry because a judge a href=”http://www.foxnews.com/wires/2007Jan19/0,4670,AHouseDivided,00.html”allowed her husband /ato build a wall in their home since they both wanted to live there. The couple have four children and the mother was on talking about how “the three older children agree with her that their father should be put out and the youngest has been brainwashed by the father.” “Okay,” I thought, “it’s a possibility, but why air your dirty laundry on television which can cause more psychological harm to the kids and why is it the majority of the time women who are pouring their hearts out on these shows and always bad mouthing the fathers of their kids?” Or take a look at a a href=”http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/showbiz/showbiznews.html?in_article_id=430942in_page_id=1773″recent story on Heather Mills/a, who initially set up a website attacking Paul McCartney for being an uncaring husband and father but then retracted it at the advice of her lawyers. br /br /Isn’t it time we took Erin Pizzy’s advice and stopped allowing vengeful women and the courts who support them to get away with demonizing men? Families suffer when men are treated as second class citizens, not to mention the men themselves. Men are now involved with their families more than ever before, they deserve support for that, not constant abuse.
January 24, 2007 - 7:40 am