Depression Is Not a Feminist Issue
I bought a new mattress last month. Too much information, I know, but there is a point. With it came one of those “Care of your new …” leaflets. The leaflet advised me to turn the mattress over regularly, otherwise it would “develop depressions.” Well, we can’t have that, can we? I promised to keep my mattress happy, even if this turns me into one of those “women who juggle their lives.” And “women who juggle their lives” come to no good.
Dennis Prager writes in Townhall.com on the subject of women’s depression. When I started reading his piece, I wondered how long it would be before he mentioned the F-word. Four short paragraphs in, there it was:
Assuming that any new phenomenon — in this case, much higher rates of depression among women — suggests a new cause, the major new cause can only be the consequences of feminism.
There you have it. If only we women had stayed in the kitchen — unable to vote, get the same education as men, earn as much as men, buy a property, or control our fertility — we’d all be as happy as Larry.
“I’ll just die if I don’t get that recipe. I’ll just die if I don’t get that recipe.” Gosh, I feel better already. Perhaps I would feel even happier if I lived in a country untouched by the ravages of feminism — Saudi Arabia, for example.
Dennis Prager has a valid point, which is that rising expectations make for unhappiness. But doesn’t this apply to men as well as women? Low expectations may keep us content, but they can also make us complacent and, worse still, fatalistic. Feminism has not been an unalloyed good; few changes are solely for the better. But I do not believe it is the main cause of “rising depression” among women. Feminism aside, I would take issue with the very wording of the piece — and of the women themselves — that is, with the word “depressed.”
Women generally talk about their feelings more than men do. In the past they might have described themselves as “sad” or “fed up” or said things like “mustn’t grumble.” Now, when unhappy or disappointed — and nobody can avoid unhappiness or disappointment — they are more likely to say they are “depressed” and, as Theodore Dalrymple knows only too well, to demand a pill for it. In his article, written for the March 2008 edition of the New English Review, Dalrymple praises a book by sociology professors A.V. Horwitz and J.C. Wakefield with an eloquent title: The Loss of Sadness: How Psychiatry Transformed Normal Sorrow into Depressive Disorder.
They point out what should have been obvious to any person with the most minimal knowledge of human nature, that the definition of depression in [the American Psychiatric Association] manual is complete disassociated human mood from the actual lived circumstances in which it was experienced. It was sufficient to be diagnosed from depression to have a certain number of symptoms for a certain length of time: two whole weeks!
Of course, some people, male and female, suffer from clinical depression. But the word is overused, when “unhappiness” would be better. I have been unhappy many times, but fortunately I have not suffered from depression. Those who have tell me that they couldn’t feel unhappiness, any more than they could feel happiness. They felt listless, empty, and numb.
Why should we wish to be happy all the time? I like Peter Ustinov’s urbane response to the stereotypically American and increasingly British exhortation: “Have a nice day!” “No thanks,” said Ustinov, “I have other plans.” What sometimes grates about “Have a nice day” is that somebody is instructing you to be happy. Perhaps you don’t want to be. Perhaps you shouldn’t be.
In some schools in the UK, children have “happiness lessons.” Carol Sarler, writing in The Sunday Times, was skeptical:
We may preach an inalienable right to the pursuit of happiness. It is far from the same as a right to attain it.
The … truth, disturbingly denied in the vogue to kill off bleak thoughts, is that it is proper, sane, and sensible to respond to bad things by feeling bad. … Sometimes nothing ever hurts again quite like the moment when the best friend is unfaithful and elopes with another, during the lunch hour, down to the illicit chip shop; lessons, again, in rejection and loneliness.
Wretched? Of course. Wrong to be? No. Normal, rational, healthy. But why should we interfere with it? If it is not a sickness and if there is no pathology, then by definition it needs neither treatment nor cure.
Feminism has given women more choices, and perhaps those choices have made us discontented. But that is not a clinical matter. Neither women nor men should call themselves “depressed” when they are in fact sad, lonely, frightened, restless, dissatisfied, or angry. Depression is not a feminist issue.
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Any philosophy that encourages and fosters a victim mentality will lead to depression.
Happiness comes from within. A ‘woe is me’ attitude effectively smothers any joy. I’ll choose not to wallow in a cesspool of self pity and side with Mr. Prager on this issue.
I’m a woman, 46, and after the last thirty plus years of enduring whining victimhood feminism I got so depressed I finally rid myself of feminists.
Today, I’m happy for the first time in my life.
When I was twelve years of age Gloria Steinem burned our bras however she left us a legacy of sagging DDD-siliconed breast hanging on anorexic skeletons with stiffened botoxed faces screaming about the plight of Eve Ensler’s vagina; ever consider the possibility that this is the reason why so many feminists are depressed?
TO: Mary Jackson
RE: Feminism & Depression or WhatHaveYou, Oh My!
Well. I’ll admit that I stumbled on this item following an ad from the BlogFather’s site. Oh. Too much info. But I do have a point…..yadda…yadda….
The point is I’ve not read Mr. Prager’s article…YET. But after reading yours I certainly will.
“Feminism has given women more choices, and perhaps those choices have made us discontented. But that is not a clinical matter. Neither women nor men should call themselves “depressed” when they are in fact sad, lonely, frightened, restless, dissatisfied, or angry. Depression is not a feminist issue.” — Mary Jackson
Perhaps is an understatement. Whether or not it is ‘clinical’ is up to someone like Dr. ‘InstaWife’ Helen to address. And hopefully she will.
Furthermore, most men and/or women wouldn’t know if they were depressed or not. And many of the depressed are so depressed they don’t realize it until a friend asks them in a more than casual manner.
Additionally, the litany of items that you listed all add/contribute to depression, as I understand it. If you’ve got one or more of them and it hangs on like a bad cold, you have a problem. You may not care to recognize that. Indeed, maybe your article is evidence that you have a problem with this yourself, as Mr. Prager seems to have ‘touched a nerve’ with you on this matter.
But, you are right. It is not, by nature, strictly a feminist issue. But you’re making a good case that feminists seem to suffer more from it than most others who are not, e.g., non-meterosexual men.
Regards,
Chuck(le)
[If you can't laugh at yourself, you're taking yourself entirely too seriously.]
Great article.
Our mothers and grandmothers were no less sad, annoyed, fed-up, or otherwise “depressed” as Dennis Prager labels it.
One difference between Grandma and the women of today is that Grandma and to some extent, mother, had no choice but to shut the heck up and submit to her husband and the kids, no matter how miserable and disgusted she was.
Grandma and mother were dependent solely on their man’s pay check, which he controlled. Being dependent and basically a household servant with benefits is something which daughters of today do not see as rewarding albeit many women are still living. Lives not fully realized are lives sometimes lived in sadness.
The other difference is that the aspirin mother and grandma took yesterday to help chill her out is today’s prozac.
I’ll choose not to wallow in a cesspool of self pity
A wise choice, and I’m not advocating a victim mentality, rather an acknowledgement that sorrow is natural, and right in some circumstances, and not a clinical condition to be banished with a pill.
Gloria Steinem burned our bras however she left us a legacy of sagging DDD-siliconed breast hanging on anorexic skeletons with stiffened botoxed faces screaming about the plight of Eve Ensler’s vagina
You must know some very strange women. I’ve never worried about anyone else’s vagina, and nobody forces anyone to have mutilating plastic surgery.
If you can’t laugh at yourself, you’re taking yourself entirely too seriously
If you think I can’t laugh at myself, you’ve not read my blog posts at New English Review. Click on my name for a PC-free chortle.
Mylai, thanks. There’s something to be said for the stiff upper lip. My parents and grandparents were stoical. I am about big things, but little things get to me. Like going to the dentist. Boo hoo!
Since when does feminism have anything at all to do with idiots who abuse cosmetic surgery? Uh, lame correlation. lame. These women are addicts. Like in drug, alcohol or sex addicts.
First of all, let’s make a distinction, (something Dennis Prager fails to do as well as the 46 year old woman commentor above) there are Feminists. Both women AND men can be “feminists” and in that regard the word and sentiment covers basic rights and opportunities for women which often crossover into race.
Then, there are the Feminists who’ve crossed over into “FemiNazis.” It’s just plain ignorance to not see this distinction.
In any “movement” or “party” there are moderates and radicals, i.e. moderate Democrats and the radical left-wing fringe of that party. There were Civil Rights leaders and then there were the Nazis of That movement in the Black Panthers and now Louis Farakkan.
FemiNazis are the fringe nutbags of feminism and while I am a registered Republican, I am socially moderate and NOT a religious nut of the right-wing fridge of that party.
What i’ve found from reading any article relating to “men-women” issues is that it is mostly women-hating women and women-hating men who seem to delight in the utter ignorance of lumping ALL feminists in one basket. And that somehow, ALL females who’ve ever considered lives of their own outside marriage and children are depressed deranged. Never mind that the majority of prozac users are married women and mothers and increasingly more men (who could well use some but there choice of drug is alcohol). Feminism or Feminazis have less to do with this condition than either of them being unsatisfied in their choice of marriage partners, boyfriends/girlfriends or not taking that “opportunity” when they had the chance.
People need to quit blaming others, including feminism, for their unhappy lives. Men need to stop with the feminist blame for the fact they can’t get laid or find a “good wife.” Look inside yourself, maybe there’s something YOU need to fix that are turning women you want against you. And women need to stop blaming men for the choices they make. Nobody makes anyone do anything we don’t want anymore. Don’t wanna get married? don’t. Don’t want kids? Make sure you find a man who doesn’t want them also.
We ultimately have only ourselves to blame for any unhappiness and should rely on ourselves first to make us happy.
BTW Mary, still a good article with a good response to DP.
oh and the Vag Monoloques, while ground-breaking and all shock n awe – i guess, i found it to be kinda too hilarious to take too serious. but then i find anything taken to extremes hilarious.
Rev. Wright comes to mind.
Mylai, I think that you’re wrong in your assertion that women today have the same levels of “sadness” as their ancestors. Women, and men, today have much more leisure time than their parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents ever considered possible. With idle time comes the opportunity to reflect on what went right and what went wrong with one’s life. If you’re up before dawn and constantly working until bedtime then you’re too tired to be sad. We also now have an entire swath of our culture devoted to telling us how “they” are better off, that “their” lives are better, and that “we’re” a bunch of pathetic losers. Additionally, one major political party devotes its energies toward making people miserable in order to garner more power for the state.
Our ancestors didn’t have the constant barrage of negativity that is the norm today. They actually had to live through difficult times (WWI, WWII, the Great Depression, the Influenza Pandemic, the Cold War, child mortality rates far in excess of today) while we’re living the proverbial “Life of Riley”. Men and Women are both “sadder” today because of the overwhelming negativity that they’re exposed to on a daily basis. They shouldn’t be “sadder” because things are the best that they’ve ever been but “sadness” is emotional, it’s not rational or logical.
Grandma and to some extent, mother, had no choice but to shut the heck up and submit to her husband and the kids, no matter how miserable and disgusted she was.
Not true of my grandmothers, either one. Both born late 19th c.
One of them, post divorce, made a killing in southern California real estate in the 1930′s-1950′s.
No college degree, but she did sing for the troops during WW II and had a brilliant mane of flowing red hair.
The statement above doesn’t apply to my mother or aunts, either.
Generalizations about the status of women (past and present)are depressing.
Curly Smith,
There are many more humans on the planet today. I can’t agree with you that today’s married parents have more leisure time than my mother or grandmother. many can’t get by on just a husband’s salary anymore. sure we have more convenient appliances but where past generations had WW11 we have iraq, aids, economy woes, foreclosures and bankruptcies, more deadly natural disasters, islamic terrorism, more violent gangs, global warming, a country divided, hostility towards women i.e more kidnappings/murders. Yes, it’s true, the media does bombard us with a lot of “doomsday” issues that seem to have no remedy. And we are working longer to get less. So based on the article, feminism is the least of our issues as a society OR for cause of depression as Dennis Prader would urge us to believe, rather foolishly.
It may be different from then, but it’s all relative. What we do have that past gen women didn’t have, are more choices.
However if feminism is to be used as a whipping girl (so to speak) then having more choices, in and of themselves in this “feminist” new-world, does not make for “depression,” disappointment or sadness etc., but ultimately. making the BAD choices do.
tanstaafl,
Your grandmother is but one woman. who’s making the generalizations here.
my grandparents were asian immigrants. grandma had 8 kids and killed chickens and pigeons to feed her family and worked with grandpa worked at a gas station and they both drank. i knew lots of grandmas like mine.
And the (book) thesis praised by Dalrymple (himself a “retired” psychiatrist and one of the most interesting writers of our times) is spot on.
The Loss of Sadness: How Psychiatry Transformed Normal Sorrow into Depressive Disorder
Very depressing, the explosion of prescriptions for mood deadening elixirs. And possibly dangerous as well, when you consider that one of the side effects of (for example) Paxil in children is suicidal ideation.
Er, I think Mylai is about 16 years old. She just compared Iraq to WWII and believes that the unrealized spectre of economic catastrophe is equivalent to the very real catastrophe that was the Great Depression. Oh, and the big ol’ mean world is hostile to women because there are more kidnappings/murders (I guess males are never murdered or kidnapped).
I think a more salient discussion is how many self-described feminists have more serious emotional/emotional pathologies than just depression, relative to the rest of the population.
It’s been apparent for a long, long time now that modern ideological feminism is nothing more than an elaborate form of psycho-therapy for women with emotional problems, as evidenced by their deeply paranoid delusions about how the world works and the motivations of others.
Why don’t they just go see a therapist and spare the rest of us their ditzy musings?
“my war’s bigger than your war, my economc collapse is bigger than your’s, and th best, men are kidnapped/raped and murdered just as equally as women.”
As to the first two, do they have to be the same to be as devastating to the nation? I suppose in your mind they do or there’s no point in mentioning.
What was the population back during WW11 or during the great depression anyway? Clearly not 300 million as is today. More people = more issues.
And as to the violence against women, surely you aren’t suggesting that the violence against men by women is equal to and as frequent as the violence of women by men? Clearly only an idiot would subscribe to that silliness.
Well, it’s obvious, with the state of violence perpetrated against women men, not to mention the populations of our prisons, who REALLY needs the therapy and psycho-tropic drugs, isn’t it? Something the one segment of our society doesn’t really like looking at.
Hell, men need a lot more than viagra to help them. Scientists ought to try working on the other head for a change. maybe there’d be less wars – for one.
later
Thanks for all comments so far.
One major stumbling block is the definition of feminism. For many, certainly on the American side (I’m British), a feminist is an ugly man-hater with no sense of humour. To me, a feminist – who may be a man – is someone who thinks men and women are equal.
For more on the F-word, readers are encouraged to check out my post here. As you will see, this is something of a grey area.
Women often say, “I’m not a feminist, but…” I say that I am a feminist, but when it comes to Islam, I feel that many feminists have failed.
TO: Mary Jackson
RE: Strange Women
“You must know some very strange women.” — Mary Jackson, to syn who said….
“When I was twelve years of age Gloria Steinem burned our bras however she left us a legacy of sagging DDD-siliconed breast hanging on anorexic skeletons….” — syn
You haven’t seen those pictures over on LGF of women purportedly ‘supported’-and I use the term VERY loosely, tongue firmly in cheek-Boobs Not Bombs protests.
VERY ‘strange women’, they.
Regards,
Chuck(le)
[Why is "bra" singular and "panties" plural?]
TO: Mylai
RE: [S-OT] Famous Comparisons
“”my war’s bigger than your war, my economc collapse is bigger than your’s, and th best, men are kidnapped/raped and murdered just as equally as women.”" –Mylai
I like….
Back to the martinis while preparing supper…..
Regards,
Chuck(le)
[Alcohol! The last gift of the relenting gods. The simple word that makes life's crossword puzzle easier to elucidate. - Lennie Lower]
TO: Mary Jackson
RE: Okay
Having read Prager’s article-as cited/linked by you-allow me to say this.
I don’t think Prager properly appreciates the situation.
I THINK, and this has not been properly researched by anyone I’m aware of, that women are naturally more likely to be ‘clinically depressed’ than men.
Why?
Are you ready?
Hang on to your seats….
…because the Bible says it’s so.
Check out Genesis 3:16
It’s the curse!
Woman’s desire is played out, daily, before our very eyes on every form of media you can connect to; Cosmo, the movies, MTV, Fox News, People, etc., etc., etc…….
And they, women in general, fall for it.
They, i.e., such women, can never be as good as THEY are. They chase a phantasm. And their whole life can be built-up/crashed, around this form of ‘paper chase’.
There’s a quote I like to throw out for men in similar sorts of situations.
You’ve heard the term ‘Mid-Life Crisis’. I see it as the male equivalent to what women go through after they reach their mid-30s. [Note: Check that great comedy movie Soapdish, where Robert Downy, Jr. is explaining the theory of the new twist in the show to the gossip columnist.]
Men can do the same thing, as women, as described as the ‘clinically depressed’ by Prager, do.
Men, however, have an out….younger women. Women can do the same thing. But apparently fewer do.
So, back to my favorite tag line for this sort of think-from the masculine perspective…..
That’s from 27 years in the infantry; starting as a private and getting out as a lieutenant colonel.
Maybe I just didn’t have time to suffer from an adverse mixture of angst and ennui. But there it is…..
Okay….
…..dinner is over. The shortbread for the first-of-the-year-and-exceedingly-delicious strawberries is about done.
Time for some cognac and a movie….with my Proverbs 31 woman.
Regards,
Chuck(le)
[The challenge is NEVER to be better than someone else. It is really to be better than yourself.]
P.S. Did Feminism have an impact on what I think is ‘natural feminine depression’?
You betcha.
How much of an impact, no one in the APA has been willing to touch with a ten-foot doctorial thesis; Too politically-correctness charged.
The truth bothers some people who can’t stand it…..but you knew that.
Prager once said on his radio program that he thought it was a good idea for women to get plastic surgery to enhance body parts and tuck away that which droops over time in order to look better and feel better about themselves. For a man who has written artfully about happiness and finding happiness within yourself and thru faith I found that rather stunning and bordering on hypocritical. He thinks steroid use by athletes forces other athletes to take them in order to keep up. He sees no contrast between these athletes and women having to choose plastic surgery? No wonder women (esp. those who go under the knife to change themselves) feel depressed and poorly about themselves. Women are depressed because we have a lot on our plate and have to work an extra year to get our butts lifted, wrinkles snipped and our face botoxed into a frozen Stepford wife stare. Women voice their thoughts of depression. Men go out and buy a Vette or play with their model trains in the basement. Everyone gets depressed. OK I feel better. Venting DOES alleviate depression and pissiness.
TO: Mylai
RE: Violence, Anyone?
“And as to the violence against women, surely you aren’t suggesting that the violence against men by women is equal to and as frequent as the violence of women by men? Clearly only an idiot would subscribe to that silliness.” — Mylai
As for ‘equal to’….
….I’d like to see the data on the number of women who were burned alive in their bed or shot to death while they slept and the male perp spent several weeks in a state-funded ‘resort’ to be released without restraints on society again.
Or then again, there’s the Bobbit case. Please tell me how many men who cut off female genitalia are allowed to ‘walk’ free in society.
As for numbers….
….well….
….there’s ‘talk’ about the number of men who are physically attacked by their spouses/partners who don’t talk about such.
But we’re becoming more vocal about it these days. Thanks to feminists like you, dearie.
When was the last time your partner turned on you with a knife? For no apparent reason? That was spouse #1. I dropped her with a cut-away sweep kick and disarmed her and left the building. Never reported her to the police for menacing. Not the sort of thing that gentleman do….
But these new laws requiring reports to the police are turning up some interesting results about ‘domestic’ violence and who is the perp. Don’t you think?
Regards,
Chuck(le)
[Woman, n., the unfair sex. -- Ambrose Bierce, The Devil's Dictionary]
Hell, men need a lot more than viagra to help them.
Viagra and all related “keep it up” medications work by dilating the blood vessels.
They can be very damaging over the long haul, especially to things like vision and the small capillaries in the eye.
Why do you think all the ED ads (geez, which ad guys invented that particular euphemism ?) on the telly say…”tell your doctor if you have vision problems”…
I agree with…Catalonia…that many of the most vociferous feminists over the decades should look, first, in their own closets.
to chucklehead,
Rape/murder of women stats are readily available to those who put down the alcohol (oops martini) and assert one wet fingers.
lorena bobbit? you sight one woman? even if you sighted 20 women you’ve diced and sliced (which i think is terrible) it would pale in relation to the number of women (i’ll include children in this equation)assaulted, drowned, burned, buried, otherwise murdered by their male counterparts. Come on dude, you’ve got to do better than that.
Oh and speaking of inferiority complexes, why would you suppose men commit all these crimes against women? fear and control. But hey, you guys rape and kill each other for pretty much the same reason. So whose got the inferiority complex?
You guys have way too much irrational fear and resistance toward feminism or perhaps even any equality.
This anxiety translates to your paranoia over losing your supposed “God-Given” right of dominance over woman and other small things – nevermind each other. Geez talk about anxiety. No wonder you drink.
Oh, i figured you’d bring up that verse in the Bible. Doesn’t fly in this century. Sorry. Convert to Islam, you’ll be happier.
Drink up bigboy! Make it a double
Mary,
I’ve never really had to say “i’m a feminist” because i take for granted that everyone believes in this country’s Constitution. Rights for everyone, even those our right to vote came decades before me (which amazes me that it took so long) Feminism to me is part of the collective Equal Rights package, which includes Civil Rights, so…
N.O.W. has become to politically liberal, and in a bad way with respect to turning the other way on rights of woman under Islam but that’s all a part of their anti-war Code Pink alliance hilarity.
Thanks for the link, and what troubles me about the UK (seeing you are British) is where your government is going with the Sharia business. What a HUGE step backward for women.
Prager is only attempting to explain, partially as he admits, the reason for the two to one ratio. He allows in advance for all the things you end up criticising him over.
Your criticism is therefore overwrought, inappropriate and somewhat defensive.
Prager is a wise man. He is not reflexively anti-feminist as you would have us believe. He is not blinded by his maleness, nor prejudiced against women or the women’s movement.
He is also not so weak as to shy away from truth for fear of offending. And clearly he has offended you.
His analysis is accurate and your criticism is badly aimed and ineffective.
TO: All
RE: Hmmmm….
….it appears that the [apparently depressed] author of this thread has decided to terminate discussion.
Probably because it’s not quite going the way she thought.
Regards,
Chuck(le)
P.S. She even looks depressed in her photo…if that IS her.
TO: PJM Management, et al.
RE: Why…
….did I post the previous missive?
Well. It has something to do with a series of captures I did on this thread that show there were a number of other missives posted between Mar 20, 2008 – 6:30 am and Mar 27, 2008 – 1:49 pm.
In other words….some posts have become part of the proverbial problem in blogging of ‘the Disppeared’.
I think I need to find out what PJM has for ‘Rules of Engagement’.
Regards,
Chuck(le)
[Withholding information is one of the ways to control what people think. -- CBPelto]
P.S. And I’ve captured the thread to date, as ‘edited’, i.e., without the comments I noticed missing, too.
P.P.S….
…just to make sure I can substantiate my concern about her own depression, I’ve dragged her photo to my desktop.
TO: All
RE: Honesty….
….IS the best policy.
Glad to see that THESE missives did not become part of ‘the Disappeared’….[that is unless PJM is using that new tech of letting people who post thinks to see what they posted while denying such privilege].
But, I’ll still ask PJM what they permit and what they do not, vis-a-vis comments and thread authors.
Regards,
Chuck(le)
[To control people, control what they see. -- CBPelto]
P.S. Where are the missing missives? And why are they missing?
Chuck – I don’t know where those comments went. I didn’t delete them; possibly they were deleted by the blog administrator, or perhaps they were lost when the site was recently upgraded.
No, that isn’t me in the picture. I’m not depressed and like nothing better than a laugh.
TO: Mary Jackson
RE: The ‘Disappeared’
“I don’t know where those comments went. I didn’t delete them; possibly they were deleted by the blog administrator, or perhaps they were lost when the site was recently upgraded.” — Mary Jackson
Yeah?
Interesting.
I sent a note to the manager of PJM asking for a copy of the Rules of Engagement they use and that allowed to columnists here. Didn’t hear anything back.
Maybe YOU could send me a copy. My e-mail is cbpelto@pcisys.net.
RE: The Picture
“No, that isn’t me in the picture. I’m not depressed and like nothing better than a laugh.” — Mary Jackson
So. Perhaps, just to avoid confusion, maybe PJM could put a caption under such images?
Regards,
Chuck(le)
[The Truth will out.]
P.S. I touched on the ‘disappeared’ items from here over on Amy Alkon’s latest column here. Maybe she and you would like to get the [mis]management to ‘disappear’ those comments as well; as I’m using what happened here—as well as elsewhere—to hammer her fairly effectively.
P.P.S. Be advised….
….I captured the column—here and at Amy’s post—every time I made a comment. I’ve seen comments become ‘disappeared’ before.
Would you like to to send you the ‘disappeared’ for you to have re-entered?
You are stark staring bonkers.
I write for New English Review (click on my name for my blog posts). I can edit or delete any comments there, but I don’t unless they are abusive.
I have no edit control at PJM, who have their own moderators. I have sent in three articles and have commented in the same way as other readers. There is no point in sending me your “disappeared” comments – I couldn’t post them. Post them again yourself if you’ve nothing better to do.
Paranoid or what? I have no wish to delete your posts, even if I could. They are a warning.
–Feminism has given women more choices, and perhaps those choices have made us discontented–
Feminism is just ONE of the reasons that gave more choices to women. Following events also played a major role
a)Birth Control Pill
b)Gradual decline of physically strenuous work, thanks to technology.
c)Expansion of educational and job opportunities.
d)Requirement for more and more human labor for the market.
e)Thanks to mass production, spehere of ‘home-made’ items has dwindled, supplanted by “fast food” culture. This has greatly reduced the significance of Home.
f)Most of the house hold chores have been automated thanks to technology again.
And in essence staying at home all the life is a waste of individual’s brain.