Dr. Wes has a href=”http://drwes.blogspot.com/2010/07/end-of-rescue-medicine.html”some thoughts on the Berwick appointment./a
a href=”http://stuartschneiderman.blogspot.com/2010/07/helicopter-moms.html”Stuart Schneiderman:/a br /blockquoteUpper middle class New Yorkers embrace diversity, until it comes to their own children. They happily affirm their commitment to a culture of self-esteem, until it enters their children’s classrooms.br /br /Thus, they overcome the stress of helicopter mothering through the private school system./blockquote
I received “The Register Report,” a magazine from the National Register of Health Service Providers in Psychology this week and flipped through it to see what CE (continuing education) credits I could take. One of the CE articles was entitled, “The Case of Leo: Conflict Between Student and Program Values” by Prudence Cuper, MA and a href=”https://s4.its.unc.edu/UNCExperts/uncexperts/getperson?ID=RVERCDWFE”Erica Wise, PHD./a The picture for the article depicted an angry-looking male doctoral student who apparently was not falling into lock-step with the left-leaning indoctrination of a href=”http://www.e-psychologist.org/index.iml?mdl=exam/show_article.mdlMaterial_ID=104″the doctoral program he was enrolled in:/abr /br /blockquoteSeveral months into the practicum year, Leo’s supervisor, Dr. J., observed that Leo’s personal views seemed to be interfering with his approaching client concerns in an open and supportive fashion. This was particularly evident in the critical stance he assumed when discussing non-heterosexual relationships. In reviewing videos of counseling sessions, Dr. J. noted that Leo tended to be less supportive of two of his clients: an 18-year old male college student who wondered if he might be gay, and a young adult lesbian who was deciding whether to come out to her family. Leo’s peers noticed his judgmental stance as well and they challenged him during group supervision. Leo responded that certain behaviors were simply “never proper” and that it falls to the therapist to point this out to clients./blockquote br /br /The committee of the doctoral program failed to give Leo credit for his practicum. The authors of the article justify this action:br /br /blockquoteWe would argue that in this vignette, Leo’s attempt to “benefit” his clients by guiding them away from “improper” behavior (in this case, same-sex relationships) undermines clients’ autonomy and is likely to cause harm to clients who are seeking balanced and non-judgmental assistance. The problem lies not in Leo’s own conservative values, but in his rigidity and lack of respect for and validation of other perspectives./blockquote br /br /What about referring patients with dissimilar values to Leo’s to another therapist, the authors ask? But decide “no” for the following reasons:br /br /blockquoteFirst, professional psychology has taken a strong stand in support of embracing diversity and affirmative psychotherapy. This position is reflected in the APA Ethics Code and in the accreditation standards for training programs. Second, allowing Leo to practice as a non-affirming psychologist might have a broader impact on society. In the Preamble to the Ethics Code, psychologists are advised to use their scientific and professional knowledge to “improve the condition of individuals, organizations, and society” (p. 3). If Leo were to promulgate prejudiced attitudes or discriminatory behaviors in either public statements or private practice, there would be the potential for a detrimental impact on society. Arguably, what happens in therapy can and should meaningfully impact society by, for example, illuminating and (when possible) reducing power differential- based factors such gender, race, socioeconomic status, ability, or sexual orientation. While many psychologists believe that we have a responsibility to improve society, this position has been most clearly articulated by the feminist psychologists in the maxim that the “personal is political” (Brown, 2006)./blockquotebr /br /So, now therapists are shut behind closed doors to inflict left-leaning, feminist indoctrination on unsuspecting patients and this is “balanced and non-judgmental assistance” and adds to patient autonomy? As John Stossel always says, “Give me a break!” br /br /I frequently hear from men how they are treated by therapists in couple’s counseling. I can always tell they have a “feminist” therapist or the male equivalent when they tell me that the therapist sides with the wife in most situations and tells the men to “watch their behavior” so as not to offend or bother their wife. This is chilling. And the worse part is, men do not know how to respond. They are confused that a “professional” that they are paying is telling them how to “fix” their marriage, yet at the same time, they have no idea they are being sold out to feminist and left-leaning politics. These “affirming psychologists” are playing with people’s lives in order to further span style=”font-style:italic;”their own/span political agenda. And they are doing it one unsuspecting patient at a time, all the while keeping any PHD student with a different political view out of the field.br /br /It should be illegal for state universities to discriminate against those who do not share their political agenda. Maybe it’s time to make it so.
Lindsay Lohan was a href=”http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/lindsay-lohan-back-court-face-jail-time/story?id=11095712page=1″sentenced to 90 days in jail and 90 days in rehab:/abr /br / blockquoteAccording to Steve Whitmore, spokesperson for the Los Angeles County Sheriff’s department, Lohan will serve her time at the Century Regional Detention Center in Lynwood, California and will be segregated from the general jail population.br /br /Lohan may only end up serving a few weeks of her 90 day jail sentence — Whitmore noted that “female, non-violent prisoners will do about 25-percent of their sentence” because L.A. jails suffer from “an overcrowding situation.” br //blockquotebr /br /a href=”http://losangelesduiblog.com/2010/03/jail-overcrowding-means-good-news-for-dui-offenders.html”According to this article, /a”non-violent” male prisoners serve more time:br /br /blockquoteThe Los Angeles Times reports that most women only serve 20 percent of their jail sentence. Up until last week, male inmates were serving at least 80 percent of their jail time, but recently the sheriff’s department began freeing men who were sentenced for non-violent offenses after they served only 50 percent of their time./blockquotebr /br /I don’t think letting people off early is such a good idea but shouldn’t the time served be uniform across the board regardless of sex? Isn’t this blatant discrimination?
Former DOJ employees want to go on record praising Adams' outstanding work record, and — pay attention, DOJ press liaisons — maybe corroborate Adams' charges about DOJ hostility to race-neutral law enforcement. (Check back here for updates in the hours and days ahead, as PJM posts additional statements.)
a href=”http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/lifestyle/article-23852426-why-morning-people-rule-the-world.do”This research says they do:/abr /br /blockquoteNew research by Christoph Randler, a biology professor at the University of Education at Heidelberg, however, concludes that morning people are more likely to succeed in their careers because they are more proactive than evening people.br /br /He surveyed 367 university students, asking them when they were most energetic and willing to change a situation. It was the morning people who were more likely to agree with statements such as “I feel in charge of making things happen” and “I spend time identifying long-range goals for myself.”br /br /Discussing his research in the Harvard Business Review, Randler says: “When it comes to business success, morning people hold the important cards. My earlier research showed that they tend to get better grades in school, which gets them into better colleges, which then leads to better job opportunities. Morning people also anticipate problems and try to minimise them. They’re proactive.”/blockquotebr /br /I’m a morning person and I would like to say that morning people get ahead, but I’ve seen too many computer and tech types who work well into the night who are successful to believe this is true. I think being able to take advantage of the times you do feel the best to do what you need to get done seems to work for most people. br /br /Are you a morning or evening person? Which do you think “get ahead?”
Have you noticed an uptick in studies that seem to say you have no or little free will? It seems that a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/014311526X?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=014311526X”as more and more liberals desire/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=014311526X” width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / to regulate behavior, the academic world is focusing more intently on studies that show free will to be an illusion. For example, in span style=”font-style:italic;”Time/span, there is a recent article entitled a href=”http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,2000994,00.html?xid=rss-topstoriesutm_source=feedburnerutm_medium=feedutm_campaign=Feed%3A+time%2Ftopstories+%28TIME%3A+Top+Stories%29″”Think You’re Operating on Free Will? Think Again”/a (a href=”http://pjmedia.com/instapundit/102345/”via Instapundit/a):br /br /blockquoteThere may be few things more fundamental to human identity than the belief that people are rational individuals whose behavior is determined by conscious choices. But recently psychologists have compiled an impressive body of research that shows how deeply our decisions and behavior are influenced by unconscious thought, and how greatly those thoughts are swayed by stimuli beyond our immediate comprehension./blockquotebr /br /a href=”http://richmedia.pjmedia.com/audio/politicscentral/glenn_helen_show/20080422-Sunstein.mp3″Glenn and I interviewed/a Cass Sunstein, the author of a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/014311526X?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=014311526X”span style=”font-style:italic;”Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness/span/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=014311526X” width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / two years ago. Sunstein is now Obama administration’s regulatory czar. I remember as I listened to him talk about “libertarian paternalism” (isn’t that an oxymoron?) that I felt sick to my stomach. In Sunstein’s opinion, it seems that justifying the notion that people do not have free will gives license to bureaucrats and politicians to “nudge” people in the direction that they desire them to go. A nudge is often not noticed until it becomes a shove and by then, it is often too late. br /br /Beware of studies that show free will to be more and more of an illusion, for as a href=”http://pjmedia.com/instapundit/102345/”Glenn says,/a “This kind of thing is often pitched as a reason for regulation, since your free will is portrayed as illusory.” br /br /Perhaps the free will of academics who do so many of these studies is really the illusion. Maybe it is span style=”font-style:italic;”they/span who unconsciously want to give more ammunition to the current administration to proceed with policies that usurp free will and take more and more of our freedoms away. Free will and personal responsibility are the epitome of freedom. Let us not allow them to become extinct.
a href=”http://pjmedia.com/rogerlsimon/2010/07/03/happy-unbirthday-america/”Roger Simon’s wish /afor today’s Fourth of July celebration: “One thing we might end for the Fourth of July is identity politics. I’ll send up a Roman candle for that.”br /br /So will I….Happy 4th!
"Feminists need to demonize these attractive Republican women because they pose an existential threat to feminism."
Stuart Schneiderman: a href=”http://stuartschneiderman.blogspot.com/2010/07/hotness-gap.html”The Hotness Gap:/abr /br /blockquoteIf a man had to choose between a fantasy date with Nikki Haley or one with Elena Kagan, which would he choose? If he had to choose between being married to Sarah Palin or being married to Hillary Clinton, who would he prefer?br /br /There is worse yet. As I believe, feminism is a cult. It is directly in the business of recruiting new adherents. From the perspective of feminist recruitment efforts, ask yourself this: if a girl is going to choose an adult female role model, who is she more likely to choose, Sonia Sotomayor or Michelle Bachmann?br /br /Feminists need to demonize these attractive Republican women because they pose an existential threat to feminism. /blockquote
a href=”http://www.wnd.com/index.php?fa=PAGE.viewpageId=173617″WND has an interview/a with Vox Day up on his book, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1935071181?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=1935071181″span style=”font-style:italic;”The Return of the Great Depression./span/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=1935071181″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” /
Dr. Wes: a href=”http://drwes.blogspot.com/2010/07/pools-open.html”The Pool’s Open!/a:br /br /blockquoteIt’s summertime and the government’s high risk insurance pool (made available by the recent passage of the health care reform bill ironically called the “Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act”) opens today. Uninsurable people should jump on in if they can “afford” the hefty $400-$900 cost per month. Be sure to bring the whole family so they can help pay the bill, too! /blockquote
Shrinkwrapped: a href=”http://shrinkwrapped.blogs.com/blog/2010/06/my-brain-made-me-do-it.html” “My Brain Made Me Do It.”/a
Jessica Wakeman over at the span style=”font-style:italic;”Frisky /spana href=”http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-cash-coupling-why-marrying-for-money-isnt-a-totally-bad-idea/”has a column about men marrying for money/a (via Instapundit and a href=”http://voxday.blogspot.com/2010/06/hypergamy-trumps-ideology.html”Vox Day/a). She writes it in response to a span style=”font-style:italic;”Newsweek/span article about the book, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0762435178?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=0762435178″span style=”font-style:italic;”Smart Girls Marry Money: How Women Have Been Duped Into the Romantic Dream–And How They’re Paying For It:/span/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0762435178″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” /br /br /blockquoteForget for a moment that they annoyingly refer to grown women as “girls” in their title and check out their thesis: because, for a variety of reasons, men earn more money than women, it’s a wise move to marry someone who can provide for you and your family….br /br /Take me, for instance. I’m afraid I’m going to get tarred and feathered as a “bad feminist” for admitting this, but yeah, I do want to marry someone who can financially support both me and our kids.br /br /I’m not ashamed to want to “marry for money,” if that’s what would you can even call it, because I don’t fundamentally believe it is the “man’s role” to provide for women. My actual motivations, as I see them, are pure enough. I know of great guys out there—journalists, teachers, non-profit dudes—who will probably make great dads. But I personally wouldn’t pair up with them because, realistically, our two salaries together just wouldn’t be enough to cut it for what I want out of life. But, but, but, “Bank accounts shouldn’t matter at all!” And while I agree with that in theory, sorry, a man who can provide for me and our children is just much more attractive to me. br /br /Maybe this isn’t “feminist,” but logically, I need to marry a guy who makes more money than I do—preferably a lot more money than I do—for us to be able to afford what I want and I hope he will want, too. /blockquotebr / br /I have to admire some of the comments made by womena href=”http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-cash-coupling-why-marrying-for-money-isnt-a-totally-bad-idea/” such as this one:/abr /br /blockquoteUgh. Stop trying to justify the sexist notion that it’s better for women to marry up. Feminism gave us the opportunity to make our own money so we could control our own destinies and marry the people we love instead of being indentured servants to men we depend on for survival. If you want to put yourself in that prison, have at it, but don’t act like it’s a great idea for women in general.br /br /What happens if your husband loses all his money in a lawsuit or market crash or gets injured and can no longer work? Gonna dump him for the next meal ticket? Being able to take care of yourself and family is feminist. Putting yourself in a position where you couldn’t do it is what hurts women and children./blockquotebr /br /At least the above commenter isn’t a hypocrite. I can’t say the same for Ms. Wakeman who appears to want to be a “feminist” with a meal ticket. I’ve noticed that the more a woman talks about feminism, the more likely she is to screw a guy out of his money. Why is that?
GM Roper: a href=”http://www.gmsplace.com/?p=4995″June’s tour of the Psych bloggers./a
I am going on a href=”http://www.wnoxnewstalk.com/showdj.asp?DJID=40779″George Korda’s show on WNOX /ain Knoxville today to talk about why men don’t want to get married. I will be on from 2-3:00 eastern time today. a href=”http://www.wnoxnewstalk.com/article.asp?id=523814″You can listen live here./abr /br /If you want to call in, you can ask us a question or make a comment at 865.656.TALK (8255) or 800.951.TALK (8255) if you are outside the listening area.br /br /Update: Thanks to all of you who listened and called in.
I picked up F.A. Hayek’s book a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0226320839?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=0226320839″span style=”font-style:italic;”Law, Legislation and Liberty, Volume 2: The Mirage of Social Justice/span/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0226320839″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / that Glenn had ordered because the title was intriguing and I love Hayek’s a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0226320553?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=0226320553″span style=”font-style:italic;”The Road to Serfdom./span/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0226320553″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / br /br /I have never felt comfortable around academics who throw out the word “social justice” because it always seems restrictive and self-serving. Once I hear a group of a href=”http://drhelen.blogspot.com/2009/01/should-schools-pick-applicants-based-on.html”social “scientists” employing the term/a, it generally means that are looking for reasons to favor some groups (almost always Democratic constituents), while excluding others. Hayek explains why he is not a fan of the term in his book on the topic:br /br /blockquoteI have now become convinced, however, that the people who habitually employ the phrase simply do it as an assertion that a claim is justified without giving a reason for it….br /br /What I hope to have made clear is that the phrase ‘social justice’ is not, as most people probably feel, an innocent expression of good will towards the less fortunate, but that it has become a dishonest insinuation that one ought to agree to a demand of some special interest which can give no real reason for it. …I have come to feel strongly that the greatest service I can still render to my fellow men would be that I could make the speakers and writers among them thoroughly ashamed ever again to employ the term ‘social justice.’br //blockquotebr /br /We all have our own idea of social justice. My form of social justice is a little different. I would have people keeping the money they earn without the force of a gun to their head with orders to turn larger and larger amounts of it over to the government as they become more successful. I would also call it socially just to have people pay for their own health care without mandating others by force to pay for them. br /br /Is the current form of “social justice” with its emphasis on government force for some special interest groups but not for others really justice? Not in my book and certainly not in Hayek’s. But read the book and decide for yourself what you think of “social justice.” Hayek might just change your mind.
a href=”http://dailycaller.com/2010/06/20/in-defense-of-the-father/#ixzz0rV6hKKfV”Anchorman at span style=”font-style:italic;”The Daily Caller/span:/a “In defense of the father”:br /br /blockquoteThere is also a polar-opposite twin to hypermasculinity, brought on by the absence of male role models: “hypo-masculinity,” the absence of masculinity. And, again, portrayals of it abound in popular culture and everyday life: Metro-sexualism, the sensitive male, the banning of dodge ball, padded playgrounds, back and chest waxing, feminized scents and colognes, TV commercials that portray the father figure as buffoonish, incompetent or absent.br /br /But there’s another manifestation that’s more troubling, and its track record is now undeniable. Author and therapist Michael Gurian writes about it in his book, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0470243376?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=0470243376″”The Purpose of Boys.”/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0470243376″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” /br /br /“Girls outperform boys in nearly every academic area. Many of the old principles of education are diminished. In a classroom of 30 kids, about five boys will begin to fail in the first few years of pre-school and elementary school. By fifth grade, they will be diagnosed as learning disabled, ADD/ADHD, behaviorally disordered or “unmotivated.” They will no longer do their homework (though they may say they are doing it), they will disrupt class or withdraw from it, they will find a few islands of competence (like video games or computers) and overemphasize those….. Once a person sees a PET or SPECT scan of a boy’s brain and a girl’s brain, showing the different ways these brains learn, they understand. As one teacher put it to me, “Wow, no wonder we’re having so many problems with boys.”br //blockquotebr /br /The article makes a good point about the prevalence and problems of hypo-masculinity. Even the government seems to be in on the hypo-masculinity game. Reader Mathew sent in a link to the government site a href=”http://fatherhood.gov/”Fatherhood.gov/a where Barack Obama’s smiling face is on the front page sharing his “fatherhood message.” In the media highlights, “good dads” are portrayed as a man a href=”http://fatherhood.gov/media/305/3″getting a manicure/a from his daughter and another dad a href=”http://fatherhood.gov/media/303/3″doing a cheerleading routine/a with his daughter. br /br /Is this the President’s vision of American manhood?
Happy Father’s Day to all my readers out there who are dads. Is it my imagination or are there more commercials and signs up this year that have positive portrayals of Dads? I saw a commercial last night talking about how wonderful Dads were and hope this is the beginning of change.
a href=”http://drwes.blogspot.com/2010/06/day-after.html”Dr. Wes discusses/a the effects of the Medicare cuts that went through.
a href=”http://www.firstthings.com/blogs/theanchoress/2010/06/17/busybodies-intrude-on-childhood-friendship/”The Anchoress /awonders if “enlightened experts” ever had childhoods after a href=”http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/17/fashion/17BFF.html?hp”reading an article/a in the span style=”font-style:italic;”NYT/spans on best friends:br /br / blockquote . . . increasingly, some educators and other professionals who work with children are asking a question that might surprise their parents: Should a child really have a best friend?br / …br / “I think it is kids’ preference to pair up and have that one best friend. As adults — teachers and counselors — we try to encourage them not to do that,” said Christine Laycob, director of counseling at Mary Institute and St. Louis Country Day School in St. Louis. “We try to talk to kids and work with them to get them to have big groups of friends and not be so possessive about friends.”br /br /“Parents sometimes say Johnny needs that one special friend,” she continued. “We say he doesn’t need a best friend.” /blockquotebr /br /The Anchoress thinks that experts are playing the busybody when they try to insert their wishes on the kids:br /br /blockquoteThis isn’t about what’s good for the children; it is about being better able to control adults by stripping from them any training in intimacy and interpersonal trust. Don’t let two people get together and separate themselves from the pack, or they might do something subversive, like…think differently.br /br /This move against “best friends” is ultimately about preventing individuals from nurturing and expanding their individuality. It is about training our future adults to be unable to exist outside of the pack, the collective. The schools want you to think this is about potential bullying and the sadness of some children feeling “excluded.” But that is not what this is about./blockquotebr /br /Frankly, I think telling the kids to congregate in packs could backfire on the helpful (probably liberal) experts who want them together. I don’t think keeping kids in a pack makes them less likely to bully. It seems to make them behave more like feral animals. Given that most kids commit crimes in groups due to peer pressure, it seems unwise to tell them to huddle together. And groups of kids may not always do what the liberal adults want them to. br /br /I read recently in a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00077B7M6?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=B00077B7M6″span style=”font-style:italic;”The Economist/span/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=B00077B7M6″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / that in 2008 Austria tried lowering the voting age to 16 and the kids promptly pulled the lever for right-leaning politicians. Kids will find a way to express their individuality, whether the adults want them to or not. My guess is that if a kid wants a best friend, he or she will find a way to get one.
If you missed it, a href=”http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ELOEWMCXenE”Glenn Beck has a great segment here/a on Hayek’s book, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0226320553?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=0226320553″span style=”font-style:italic;”The Road to Serfdom/span/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0226320553″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / (via a href=”http://nalert.blogspot.com/2010/06/how-glenn-beck-helped-sell-hayeks-road.html”Newsalert/a).
Reader Topher sends in an article asking a href=”http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-girl-talk-what-the-hell-is-happening-to-30-something-guys/?TrackID=obpaidobref=obnetwork”this question from the span style=”font-style:italic;”Frisky/span:/abr /br /blockquoteIf every time I met a cute, funny, smart, nice, emotionally stable, 30-something man with a girlfriend an angel exploded into a fireball and someone gave me a nickel, I would have enough money to buy a fancy angel graveyard with marble headstones. That is how frequent—and how tragic—this experience has become….br /br /The only thing worse than a cute, funny, smart, nice, emotionally stable and totally taken man is one who’s single and just wants to play the field. What. A. Waste.br /br /You see, he’s just one example of a larger issue that I’ve encountered again and again since becoming single. Otherwise pretty rad dudes reach their 30s without “settling down”—and by that I mean finding a serious girlfriend they could potentially see marrying or being with forever—and suddenly it’s like they regress to teenage boyhood. There’s some kind of bell curve, where guys get more mature and then they peak, and if they’re not in a stable relationship at that point, then they dip back down to the emotional maturity of 15-year-olds. Suddenly relationships give them that same sense of confusion that choosing between playing Super Mario Land or TP-ing the math teacher’s house used to. I know I’m generalizing here, but for the most part, it’s true. If you’re a 30-something dude and this doesn’t describe you, congrats! You’re likely one of the other generalized types I mentioned—somewhere on the spectrum between single douchebag and taken demi-god./blockquotebr /br /So, if male, you’re a douchbag if you deny a woman marriage and a “demi-god” if you are tied to a woman? Does the author of this article have any idea that her oozing sense of entitlement (read the article to get the gist of it) might be a turn-off? Probably not. br /br /Perhaps if she spent a little more time asking “What the hell is in marriage for 30-something year old guys with self-indulgent types like me, she might come up with an answer for why so many guys in their thirties are single. Throw in the unfair legal battle these same guys have watched their dads, friends, and uncles engage in during divorce and she will know exactly what the hell is happening to 30-something guys. Rather than the regressed or confused “douchbags” she thinks they are, they are simply wise to the ways of the world.
There comes a time, when we heed a certain call...
I was coming back from North Carolina and Duke University yesterday and noticed a number of men with a “Save the Ta-Tas” bumper sticker on their car. I’ve also noticed them around Knoxville. It’s always a middle-aged guy. What the hell is that all about? br /br /Why do men have a breast cancer bumper sticker for women with such a dumb slogan? Is it so they can talk about women’s breasts in a socially acceptable manner? Is it to make women think they are for women’s issues in order to get laid? Did some woman such as a wife or girlfriend stick it on their car? Or all of the above? br /br /Apparently, “Save the Ta-Tas” is very popular–there a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0029LL0L6?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=B0029LL0L6″is even a sock with the same slogan/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=B0029LL0L6″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / from someone called the “SockGuy.” br /br /If men are going to drive around with a save the Ta-Tas bumper sticker on their car, I am tempted to go to a href=”http://www.cafepress.com/+bumper-stickers”Cafe Press/a and make up a “Save the Wieners” bumper sticker for prostate cancer. After all, men’s health problems could use some attention too.br /br /Update: SayUncle: a href=”http://www.saysuncle.com/2010/06/15/branding/”Maybe the opportunity to put something a little dirty on display that won’t cause shrieks of outrage? /a
Many of you a href=”http://www.nypost.com/p/news/international/solo_sail_girl_LgDVHJyGLV3RJNXe2D6R4L”may have read about the 16-year-old teenage girl/a who was recently found on her boat in the Indian ocean after trying to break the world record for sailing around the world. A number of commenters to the article in the span style=”font-style:italic;”NY Post/span blame the parents for the girl getting lost as they allowed her to fulfill her dream. a href=”http://www.nypost.com/p/news/international/solo_sail_girl_LgDVHJyGLV3RJNXe2D6R4L”Here are some examples:/abr /br /blockquotethis 16 year old shouldnt be alone on the sea period. what is wrong with her parents? i guess kids can do what ever they want to do huh?br /br /Her parents ARE negligent. How can you allow your “child” to leave home – alone – and go out into the open sea thousands of miles away from you? Of course there are dangers are land, but at least you can get to your child within a reasonable time if they need you. But to be in Thousand Oaks, CA – on the phone doing guess-work – while your child is at least a 22 hour plane trip away is ridiculous. And everyone defending them must be either bad parents or have no children at all./blockquotebr /br /This is a tough one. As a parent, you want to protect your child, but if your child has a dream before they are 18, isn’t one of your goals as a parent to try and teach them to be autonomous and reach that goal? When I was 14, I wanted to be an airplane pilot more than anything in the world. My parents delivered me to the airport every week to fly Cessna 150s as long as I paid for it through my job. I know my Dad was a bit nervous that I was flying in the mountains but he never said a word. br /br /To this day, I admire my parents for allowing me to fly and fulfill that dream, though because of bad eyesight, I never made it as a pilot. However, my time in the air and my parent’s ability to let go taught me to make it on my own. For that, I am forever grateful to them. I bet that one day, this young sailor will be to her parents also. People think these parents are negligent, but perhaps they are simply overcoming their own fear of letting their kid venture forth. I think this is noble, not negligent. br /br /What do you think?