Comments on: Ask Dr. Helen: Do Husbands Owe Wives Post-Childbirth ‘Push Presents?’ http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/ Thu, 16 Feb 2012 03:26:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: rewards zone http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-1288382 rewards zone Fri, 23 Sep 2011 11:17:21 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-1288382 You can certainly see your enthusiasm within the work you write. The world hopes for even more passionate writers such as you who are not afraid to mention how they believe. At all times go after your heart. You can certainly see your enthusiasm within the work you write. The world hopes for even more passionate writers such as you who are not afraid to mention how they believe. At all times go after your heart.

]]> By: Rachel http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-458727 Rachel Wed, 02 Dec 2009 04:58:39 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-458727 I think the motivation behind wanting and giving the gift are what's important. I personally am very sentimental about jewelry. I don't whine and beg for it, and I don't have very much, but the pieces I wear the most commemorate something. There's an inexpensive necklace my husband bought me at a Renaissance Fair when we were dating that always reminds me of that wonderful day. My engagement and wedding rings are constant reminders of our love. Becoming a mother is a wonderful event in a woman's life. I don't feel entitled to "payment" for going through labor, but a nice piece of jewelry that will hold up for years is a tangible reminder of a beautiful experience that we shared. I think the motivation behind wanting and giving the gift are what’s important. I personally am very sentimental about jewelry. I don’t whine and beg for it, and I don’t have very much, but the pieces I wear the most commemorate something. There’s an inexpensive necklace my husband bought me at a Renaissance Fair when we were dating that always reminds me of that wonderful day. My engagement and wedding rings are constant reminders of our love. Becoming a mother is a wonderful event in a woman’s life. I don’t feel entitled to “payment” for going through labor, but a nice piece of jewelry that will hold up for years is a tangible reminder of a beautiful experience that we shared.

]]> By: BBJ http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163425 BBJ Tue, 02 Dec 2008 08:03:23 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163425 I think this is actually a rather old-fashioned people-with-money thing, buying the wife jewels after the birth of a child. And I know many people who've bought their wives (or husbands) special things to celebrate a birth. If you can afford it, and this is how your relationship works, I don't know that there's a bad time to buy your spouse something nice. The term 'push present', though, makes me crinnnnnge, and the idea I've seen on some sitcoms and such, that there's an expected value for childbirth that the husband is expected to meet (and, in sitcom land, will groan and mope about) is just tacky. What, if the bracelet isn't nice enough you're going to stop pushing? I think this is actually a rather old-fashioned people-with-money thing, buying the wife jewels after the birth of a child. And I know many people who’ve bought their wives (or husbands) special things to celebrate a birth. If you can afford it, and this is how your relationship works, I don’t know that there’s a bad time to buy your spouse something nice.

The term ‘push present’, though, makes me crinnnnnge, and the idea I’ve seen on some sitcoms and such, that there’s an expected value for childbirth that the husband is expected to meet (and, in sitcom land, will groan and mope about) is just tacky. What, if the bracelet isn’t nice enough you’re going to stop pushing?

]]> By: Takekaze http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163424 Takekaze Tue, 02 Dec 2008 08:02:13 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163424 Hmmm... non-Christian and non-Conservative speaking now: When there's a child born to a family, then both father and mother already get the best present possible. It's called "baby". "Push present"... Stupid idea. Hmmm… non-Christian and non-Conservative speaking now:

When there’s a child born to a family, then both father and mother already get the best present possible. It’s called “baby”.

“Push present”… Stupid idea.

]]> By: Takekaze http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163420 Takekaze Tue, 02 Dec 2008 07:43:49 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163420 Hmmm... non-Christian and non-Conservative speaking now: When there's a child born to a family, then both father and mother already get the best present possible. It's called "baby". Hmmm… non-Christian and non-Conservative speaking now:

When there’s a child born to a family, then both father and mother already get the best present possible. It’s called “baby”.

]]> By: HeGetsSexYouGetGIft? http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163398 HeGetsSexYouGetGIft? Tue, 02 Dec 2008 06:22:13 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163398 When I was born, my father gave my mother a little feather he had found on his way to the hospital. He wrote a note with it, "Another feather for your cap." She has kept it. It means something. A "push present" is both vulgar and greedy. How very like the present era. When I was born, my father gave my mother a little feather he had found on his way to the hospital. He wrote a note with it, “Another feather for your cap.” She has kept it. It means something. A “push present” is both vulgar and greedy. How very like the present era.

]]> By: Barbara http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163394 Barbara Tue, 02 Dec 2008 05:50:31 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163394 My husband got me a gift of a fine china tea cup after each of our children were born... he knows my taste and I loved them and cherish them as a memento of the postpartum time and a reminder that I am appreciated for being open to life and willing to sacrifice my body to be accomodating to the changes that a baby brings. Nothing wrong with lauding virtue with a gift from the heart! My husband got me a gift of a fine china tea cup after each of our children were born… he knows my taste and I loved them and cherish them as a memento of the postpartum time and a reminder that I am appreciated for being open to life and willing to sacrifice my body to be accomodating to the changes that a baby brings. Nothing wrong with lauding virtue with a gift from the heart!

]]> By: Michelle Malkin » Michelle’s ring thing http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163374 Michelle Malkin » Michelle’s ring thing Tue, 02 Dec 2008 04:34:43 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-163374 [...] 4) What is it with some women who feel entitled to receive lavish presents from their husbands for work that should be its own reward? Reminds me of this ridiculous “Push Present” phenomenon (see Dr. Helen’s column here). [...] [...] 4) What is it with some women who feel entitled to receive lavish presents from their husbands for work that should be its own reward? Reminds me of this ridiculous “Push Present” phenomenon (see Dr. Helen’s column here). [...]

]]> By: dolph http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-70236 dolph Sun, 06 Jul 2008 04:59:58 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-70236 hi! sorry 2 barge in on your conversation like this but i wanted to ask davy something, if i may: when u say "thoughtful, romantic ..." etc. u r quoting from a film - i think it goes "...... and slightly tangential" - but i've forgotten the film. cd u help? yrs apologetically + extremely tangentially dolph hi! sorry 2 barge in on your conversation like this but i wanted to ask davy something, if i may: when u say “thoughtful, romantic …” etc. u r quoting from a film – i think it goes “…… and slightly tangential” – but i’ve forgotten the film. cd u help?
yrs apologetically + extremely tangentially
dolph

]]> By: Aubrie http://pjmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-46667 Aubrie Mon, 26 May 2008 19:09:52 +0000 http://pajamasmedia.com/blog/ask-dr-helen-do-husbands-owe-wives-post-childbirth-push-presents/#comment-46667 I could never expect such a thing of my husband. I was grateful that he took the time off to help after I had our babies (one emergency c-sec after 24 hours of hard labor, one scheduled). He got me a rocker the Christmas before our first was born. We bought a larger house before the second one. I'm not big on jewelry and flowers - my eyes light up over an extra contribution to our 401K or one of the kids' college funds... but I guess I'm just a MOM. I could never expect such a thing of my husband. I was grateful that he took the time off to help after I had our babies (one emergency c-sec after 24 hours of hard labor, one scheduled). He got me a rocker the Christmas before our first was born. We bought a larger house before the second one.

I’m not big on jewelry and flowers – my eyes light up over an extra contribution to our 401K or one of the kids’ college funds… but I guess I’m just a MOM.

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