Web MD points outa href=”http://www.webmd.com/content/article/122/114948?src=rss_webmdblogs” an interesting study /athat found that bipolar youth may see hostility even in faces that are neutral:br /br /blockquoteCompared with those without bipolar disorder, bipolar youths gave higher hostility ratings to the neutral faces and reported being more fearful of those faces, the study shows.br /br /While viewing the neutral faces, bipolar youths’ fMRI brain scans showed more activity in the left amygdala, a brain area related to fear, compared with the brain scans of nonbipolar participants.br /br /Which came first: bipolar disorder or seeing hostility in neutral faces? The study doesn’t answer that question. It also doesn’t show whether bipolar participants felt more irritable or aggressive after viewing neutral faces./blockquotebr /br /In my clincial experience, I often find that bipolar youth, particularly those who are aggressive, tend to misread social cues–that is, they perceive actual situations as worse than they are or read into people’s actions or expressions, more hostility and threatening behavior than is actually there. For example, if someone stares at them, they may perceive it as a threat rather than a look of curiosity. Often a youth who is poor at reading other people’s behavior will strike out aggressively in a case where aggression is not called for–whether that is because of fear or anger, or both is sometimes hard to tease out. Teaching youth who are bipolar or potentially aggressive to read faces, nonverbal movements and social interactions more clearly is a first step to teaching better coping skills.
Cathy Young has an a href=”http://cathyyoung.blogspot.com/2006/05/israel.html”interesting post /aon her recent trip to Israel.br /br /Update: Pictures from her trip a href=”http://cathyyoung.blogspot.com/2006/05/pictures-from-israel.html”are now up/a.
The a href=”http://heartkeepercommonroom.blogspot.com/2006/05/carnival-of-homeschooling.html”22nd Carnival of Homeschooling /a is up at The Common Room. I found a href=”http://whyhomeschool.blogspot.com/2006/05/destructive-family-trends-part-2.html”this post /aon how step parents feel about their step kids troubling. What do you think–can step parents care as much about their stepkids as they do about their biological kids?
Who says a href=”http://www.wsbtv.com/news/9290011/detail.html”violence can’t sometimes be beneficial? /a (Hat Tip: a href=”http://grimbeorn.blogspot.com/2006_05_01_grimbeorn_archive.html#114899624830758081″Grim’s Hall/a)
Reader Patrick sent me a href=”http://www.cnn.com/2006/US/05/29/fight.club.ap/index.html”this article from CNN/a describing a new pasttime for men–fight clubs. Apparently, men from the computer tech industries are proving their manhood by beating on each other in organized fight clubs:br /br /blockquoteInspired by the 1999 film “Fight Club,” starring Brad Pitt and Ed Norton, underground bare-knuckle brawling clubs have sprung up across the country as a way for desk jockeys and disgruntled youths to vent their frustrations and prove themselves./blockquotebr /br /The article obtains these brilliant nuggets from a couple of sociologists (one from a gender studies department, of course):br /br /blockquoteMen involved in fight clubs often carry bottled-up violent impulses learned in childhood from video games, cartoons and movies, said Michael Messner, a University of Southern California sociology and gender studies professor.br /br /”Boys have these warrior fantasies picked up from popular culture, and schools sort of force that out of them,” he said. In these fantasies, “The good guys always resort to violence, and they always get the glory and the women.”br /br /There is also a sadomasochistic thread running through underground fight clubs, said Michael Kimmel, a sociology professor at Stony Brook University in New York.br /br /”Real-life fight clubs are the male version of the girls who cut themselves,” he said. “All day long these guys think they’re the captains of the universe, technical wizards. They’re brilliant but empty.br /br /”They want to feel differently. They want to get hit, they want to feel something real.”/blockquotebr /br /My interpretation is a little different. Violence is the new sex. Sex used to be forbidden and people went underground to do it–now sex is advocated everywhere–even college campuses hand out free condoms. But now the forbidden fruit in our society is violence and it has gone underground. These men never “learned” violence from video games, cartoons and movies as suggested by one of the sociology professors.br /br /The aggression was innate to begin with but it was never channeled, and instead was stomped out of them in the culture as something wicked, immoral and “male.” Perhaps these fight clubs are the new male ritual, like in the olden days when boys went through rituals to become men. The schools and culture have attempted to squash whatever maleness is left in today’s men and all they are left with (besides football which is now banned at my daughter’s elementary school) are a few underground clubs to artificially practice their manhood. Wouldn’t it be better for our culture to accept and teach boys how to sublimate and deal with violence when they are younger so they do not have to grow up to be men so desperate to prove themselves that a broken rib and a thrashing at an “underground” fight club is the only way to prove their manhood?
Reader Bob informed me of this editorial in the a href=”http://www.rockymountainnews.com/drmn/editorials/article/0,2777,DRMN_23964_4734140,00.html”iRocky Mountain News/i/a on the gender gap in graduation rates between boys and girls in Denver public schools. The difference? 9% fewer boys are graduating from high school. Believe it or not, the school system is finally turning its attention to this problem: br /br /blockquoteNearly everyone involved with education is troubled by the large and persistent gaps in academic performance among racial and ethnic groups. Now the similarly large gap between boys and girls is beginning to get the serious attention it deserves as well. br /br /But it’s when you look at both factors simultaneously that the real puzzlement begins. A emNews/em report last week of the graduating class of 2005 in Denver Public Schools found that girls in any ethnic group are more likely to graduate from high school than boys in the same group. And the gaps are so large that black, white and Asian girls all graduate at higher rates than white boys. br /br /We are probably on safe grounds ruling out any intention on the district’s part to discriminate against white boys, so what else is going on? And not only in Denver, but in other big-city districts that have similar patterns? /blockquotebr /br /Okay, what safe grounds would that be–that white boys are not discriminated against? Was a study done, did you ask the white boys what they thought? How will “experts” ever figure out the problem if they have already closed their minds to the possibility that their preconceived ideas about boys just might be wrong? Could it be that the schools are run mainly for the benefit of girls? Could girls have been told for the past thirty years to get ahead and get an education while boys are told education is for girls? I don’t know–just a guess. But I guess it is easier to say the whole situation is puzzling then to open up a real dialogue with boys and their feelings about school.
I guess for people who have a dream of climbing Mount Everest, nothing else–a href=”http://www.buffalonews.com/editorial/20060525/1043217.asp”not even a person dying/a–can keep them from their goal (Hat Tip:a href=”http://althouse.blogspot.com/2006/05/when-rugged-individualist-goes-where.html” Ann Althouse/a). I say that’s pitiful. It reminds me of the French tragedy when a href=”http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/European_heat_wave_of_2003″thousands of elderly died of heatstroke /a when their kids and the government went on vacation in the month of August. What do you think–would you pass a dying man by to reach the top of a mountain or leave the elderly to die so you could have a vacation?
Have you ever noticed how frightened people are of confrontation–even if it just means the slightest bit of displeasure from another person? Normally, these non-confronters think of themselves as “very good and moral people” and believe the reason they do not confront is to save another’s feelings. But in truth, they are so afraid of causing emthemselves/em a moment’s displeasure, that they will do anything to get out of being direct with another person. br /br /Case in point: one day our office secretary had to be fired. She had been given numerous warnings and told how to improve her performance, but to no avail. She continued to ignore requests to be in the office to answer the phones, call us when patients had important messages and well, you get the idea. Everyone in the office agreed that she needed to be let go, but would not fire her. Finally, I was asked to do the dirty work. As much as I did not like it, I knew that the secretary was bad for business and had to go. Yes, it was a scene. I was direct, told her why we were letting her go and told her I hoped she found other more suitable work. She burst into tears. Naturally, the others in the office had fled. br /br /There have been a number of times in my life that friends, family or others have asked me to assist them in telling somebody no, or give someone information that was very difficult. In some cases, I have done it because no one else would. When my father was sick with cancer, none of my family wanted to tell him that we had hired a nurse to help us as he did not want a stranger in his home. I totally understood but there came a point where we needed medical assistance. No one had the nerve to tell my father and asked me to do it. I did, but not without a great deal of pain and difficulty. But the alternative of having no help was worse. br /br /I sometimes wonder about the difference between people who will confront others in a direct manner and those who will not. I am frequently told that the former group is vicious or insensitive but I think it is just the opposite. It takes a great deal of bravery and self discipline or sometimes kindness to be direct with other people. I am not talking about the kind of confrontation that is just to get one’s jollies, like telling someone off, but rather the type of confrontation that makes one unpopular, but is necessary to produce positive, constructive change in the long run. Those who wish to take the moral high ground and lie to themselves about their “superiority” and compassion by avoiding confrontation and having others do their dirty work know deep down what they are. Or they sublimate their feelings by posting anonymously on other people’s blogs to say impolite things to people that they would be terrified to confront in the real world.
New kid Jeff Goldstein joins old hands Glenn and Eric for this week’s BWIR. Topics: the Internet’s Army of Fact-Checkers, the FBI investigating Congress, a possible Palestinian civil war and a possible Rove indictment. Moderating: Austin. Producing: Ed.
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Israellycool marks the first anniversary of his podcast talking about Olmert’s visit to the US, Gorilla News, Neturei Karta, Eurovision and William Shatner.
Here is an article from thea href=”http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,2-2196058,00.html” Times /aon the rewritten rules of marriage and divorce in Britain. I found the a href=”http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,564-2195098,00.html”responses to the debate /aon the issue of whether or not divorcees should live off their ex-partner’s fortunes interesting. I wonder if all of these intrusive rules are a href=”http://www.breitbart.com/news/na/050930140708.k6bnuj54.html”why marriage in Britain is “on the rocks?”/a (Hat Tip: a href=”http://dhdiary.blogspot.com/”dhdiary blog/a)br /br /What I find amazing in these divorce cases is that the British legal system sees fit to think that women are entitled to enormous compensation from their rich ex-husbands because they go into the marriage expecting to be wealthy and then, when the marriage ends, they have a “need” to keep up this wealthy standard of living. br /br /Wouldn’t the equivalent for men be that a guy expected super hot sex when entering the marriage and once divorced, should be able to expect this from the ex-wife on a regular basis as long as a “need” is present? Maybe men in Britain should bring up this idea to the Parliament and see how it plays out.
I took my daughter who just graduated from 5th grade to a new Tea Room in Knoxville that features a great selection of teas, finger sandwiches and tiny salads. I had received a gift certificate to this little gem of a shop but frankly, did not think it would be my cup of tea as I imagined a quiet, reserved place full of delicate socialites discussing their latest art, projects, and charities. I, on the other hand, am a loud talker, rather clumsy, and tiny sandwiches are not my thing. However, I admit that I was wrong about the place. br /br /The shop was charming, the staff sported British accents, great tea suggestions and the food was superb. We had vanilla tea with finger sandwiches filled with artichoke and pesto, pimento cheese and salami (which I do not touch but looked pretty yummy). The tiny salad was amazingly good and the atmosphere was luxurious without being obnoxious. The patrons were cheerful and mainly consisted of moms with their newly graduated daughters–mainly from kindergarten. The staff showed my daughter and me their various tea gadgets, showed us how to make decaf teas and gave us some free samples to try. I would definitely go back. Anyone else have a fun rendezvous with their child or children for graduation?
Many of you out there may have already read this essay, a href=”http://www.theothersideofkim.com/index.php/essays/41/”The Pussification of the Western Male,/a by The Other Side of Kim–but I think it is worth re-reading or reading for the first time as it speaks volumes about what is happening to many men in our culture. I do not particularly agree with all of this essay, of course, as a woman, but it does ring true in many areas. Especially where he talks about men not taking a stand against misandry–apparently, it is just easier not to.
Garance Franke-Ruta @ Tapped is not sure there should be that much outrage in the liberal blogosphere over yesterday’s NY Times’ story on Hillary and Bill‘s marriage:“This story answers an essential question for Hillary-watchers, and knocks down one of the major raps against her as a candidate, the allegation that she is a coldly calculating person so ambitious she stayed in a sham marriage just so she could run for President one day.”
Now a href=”http://spaces.msn.com/worldofbill/blog/cns!C4B6B44ABF8B9F31!3515.entry”here is a blogger /a who believes that the proper role for a man in marriage is submission. Actually, the blog of this “Mad Suburban Dad” sounds like it is written by a woman. Apparently, if you don’t acknowlege that men should kowtow to women in marriage, act frightened of their spouse’s wrath, a href=”http://spaces.msn.com/worldofbill/PersonalSpace.aspx”hide out in a tent /a like a wuss (see entry 4-4-2006 and 4-11-2006) and say you are “on strike” instead of confronting her, or otherwise kiss up to women at every opportunity–you are pegged as a woman-hater. What do you think–is this “guy’s” blog satire or not?br /br /Update: Normally, I do not care what other people write about my blog or me in their own personal blogs–it is usually of little interest. However, in this case of Mad Suburban Dad, I think his blog and commenters speak volumes about the way our society treats men and those of us who are female who do not toe the party line of the virtues of women and the sins of men. Just call them sexist, woman haters, racist or whatever to make them look bad. Sorry MadDad, this type of behavior no longer works–everyone sees through this cheap psychological maneuver. br /br /Mad Dad calls my commenters (and me, by association) “women-haters and the women who love them,” yet here are the statements from his commenters regarding myself, a href=”http://cathyyoung.blogspot.com/2006/04/feminism-misogyny-and-husband.html”Cathy Young, /aand a woman named Heather:br /br /blockquoteWell, I have been a reader here for a while now and I have always thought your entries were well written and humorous. I can only hope my marrage is as happy as your is, we should all hope to be as lucky. I went ahead and read those two womens blogs and I have to tell you I am ashamed to be a woman right now. Those two humorless twits are ruining the reputations of women everywhere turning us into nagging humorless bitches who will leave you at the drop of a hat. Accckkkk… they make me sick. I appologize for the rest of us who are not bland, cranky, miserable, lackluster and emotionally repressive. br /br /frankly they sound a couple of jealous ol’ BFHs (Bimbo from a Terribly Hot Place ;-)w absolutely no sense of humor to me! I loved the story of the ‘well-managed’ man and think that tho Mrs Mad-Dad was apparently born a ‘Yankee’, that she’s really a Southern Lady at heart (w all the smarts that being a Lady entails), and you sir are obviously a Gentleman (w all the courtesy that being a Gentleman requires).br /br /Well MadDad, first of all, Heather is an A-hole. You know it, I know it, and the rest of blogland should know it….. I wonder what Dr. Helen Cathy Young’s relationships are like? Tee Hee. /blockquotebr /br /Wow, it sounds like Mad Dad and his commenters are the woman-haters to me.
The a href=”http://gottsegnet.blogspot.com/2006/05/21st-carnival-of-homeschooling-map-to.html”21st Carnival of Homeschooling /ais up. I found a href=”http://www.mamalogues.com/2005/08/thats-mrs-crazy-freaky-nutjob-young.html”this post /aentitled, “That’s Mrs. Crazy Freaky Nut Job, Young Man!” to be an amusing response from this mom when others act rather shocked at her decision to homeshool:br /br /blockquoteNo, he won’t have a blast at school and I’ll be his teacher because I’m a crazy freaky nutjob who plans to teach her kids horribly at home, all the while turning them into recluses who will grow up to live in shacks in Montana and mail letter bombs to people. Make me proud kids! At least, that’s what it seems like I say because everytime I mention that I’m going to homeschool I get these very odd looks, like I just told my audience that I have airborne VD or something./blockquotebr /br /Uhh, I thought recluses who mailed letter bombs to people a href=”http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theodore_Kaczynski”graduated from Harvard/a.
Today, we are talking with Mary Cheney about her new book, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=as2path=ASIN/141652049Xtag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325″Now It’s My Turn : A Daughter’s Chronicle of Political Life./aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=141652049X” width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / Ms. Cheney worked as her father’s campaign manager in the 2000 and 2004 Presidential election and tells us about the trials and tribulations of the job, starting with the fact that she was targeted by Democrats for being the “lesbian daughter of a Republican Vice President.” She discusses being part of a political family, her favorite blogs and their importance in politics and the hostility of the media. She tells us what she wants readers to know about her father–that he is not the monster, killer, robot etc. that the media has touted him as. In fact, he is actually a pretty nice guy and a good father who supported her no matter what. br /br /You can listen to the podcast by a href=”http://podcasts.instapundit.com/MaryCheneyShow052206.mp3″clicking here/a or you can a href=”http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=116559643s=143441″subscribe on iTunes./a You can hear our previous podcasts at the archive a href=”http://instapundit.com/archives/cat_podcasts.php”here,/a and there’s a dialup version a href=”http://www.instapundit.com/extra_archives/2006_02.php#028499″here./abr /br /Please leave comments or suggestions below.
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If men were writing the advice columns, is a href=”http://www.offtopicz.com/if-men-gave-advice-vt3070.html”this the kind of advice /athey would give? Are the advice columns written by women really any less selfish?
John Ford, MD, a href=”http://www.tcsdaily.com/article.aspx?id=052206D”discusses his concerns /awith the Shangri-la Diet at TCS Daily.
a href=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/1600/longs3.jpg”img style=”float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;” src=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/320/longs3.jpg” border=”0″ alt=”" //abr /Remember the old drugstores that doubled as diners in your youth? We still have one in Knoxville—Long’s Drug Store has just celebrated it’s 50th anniversary and has not changed much at all over the years. What’s interesting is, neither have the portion sizes of the food. They still serve portions sizes of the past–it’s no wonder people were not as fat in the 50′s, 60′s and 70′s. But Long’s is unusual–if another restaurant around here tried to cut back on its portion sizes, I have a feeling that it would not last long. We had a place like that downtown–The Elephant Room, an Indian Restaurant, that served the most petite portions I had ever seen. It was also quite expensive. Needless to say, it folded pretty quickly. Luckily for Long’s, the portion sizes are small but so is the price. Lunch for two–$7.16 and a tip.
Dr. Sanity’s a href=”http://drsanity.blogspot.com/2006/05/carnival-of-insanities_21.html”Carnival of the Insanities /ais up.
I was watching the news tonight when I saw a href=”http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory?id=1980310″this story /a about two elderly women befriending homeless men and then allegedly killing them for insurance money. What I found interesting was the way the news story portrayed this tragedy. Instead of focusing on the cruelty of this act, the story seems to ponder the idea that women of this age should not be involved in such dirty work:br /br /blockquotePolice are investigating two women in their 70s who they believe hatched a scheme to offer two homeless men shelter, then collect more than $2 million in insurance policies after they were killed in hit-and-run crashes. br /br /Police also believe the women may have committed the accidents and were befriending other men to set up more insurance policies. br /br /”Anyone would think that even though they’re making financial gains for this, that they would leave the actual dirty work to someone else or hire someone,” police Detective Dennis Kilcoyne said. “We’re not so sure about that anymore.” /blockquotebr /br /What is the point of this remark by the detective–that these ladies should have had better things to do than actually dirty their hands with killing these men? Uhh–detective–did you ever stop to think that women so cruel that they would try to rip off homeless men might resort to anything? Really–shouldn’t the point of the story be that potential killers can come in all shapes, sizes, ages, and genders? What a sad story.
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