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Post Office Shooting

Tuesday, January 31st, 2006

a href=”http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11107022/”This makes me really sad/a–I know that these types of mass shootings can be stopped if someone would pay attention. Note that the shooter is a female.br /br /Update: Of course, a href=”http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11128315/”this is a surprise/a–who could have guessed that this woman was irrational for years?

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Another Anti-Republican Study

Tuesday, January 31st, 2006

Well, it’s about time for another absurd psychological study looking at the racism of guess who–I know you will be shocked–Republicans–hat tip a href=”http://michellemalkin.com/archives/004410.htm”Michelle Malkin/a. Take a look at a href=”http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/01/29/AR2006012900642.html” this Washington Post article /a about a study that ties political leanings to hidden biases:br /br /blockquoteAnother study presented at the conference, which was in Palm Springs, Calif., explored relationships between racial bias and political affiliation by analyzing self-reported beliefs, voting patterns and the results of psychological tests that measure implicit attitudes — subtle stereotypes people hold about various groups.br /br /That study found that supporters of President Bush and other conservatives had stronger self-admitted and implicit biases against blacks than liberals did.br /br /”What automatic biases reveal is that while we have the feeling we are living up to our values, that feeling may not be right,” said University of Virginia psychologist Brian Nosek, who helped conduct the race analysis. “We are not aware of everything that causes our behavior, even things in our own lives.”/blockquotebr /br /and the study goes on to say:br /br /blockquoteFor their study, Nosek, Banaji and social psychologist Erik Thompson culled self-acknowledged views about blacks from nearly 130,000 whites, who volunteered online to participate in a widely used test of racial bias that measures the speed of people’s associations between black or white faces and positive or negative words. The researchers examined correlations between explicit and implicit attitudes and voting behavior in all 435 congressional districts.br /br /The analysis found that substantial majorities of Americans, liberals and conservatives, found it more difficult to associate black faces with positive concepts than white faces — evidence of implicit bias. But districts that registered higher levels of bias systematically produced more votes for Bush. /blockquotebr /br /a href=”https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/”Here is the test /athe biased liberals–I mean “reseachers”– used to make their point. It has been around for awhile but I have never taken it until today after seeing this silly article. My results are quite interesting. The first time I took the test, my results said that I had a moderate preference for European Americans to African Americans. I took the test a second time and it said I had a slight preference for African Americans over European Americans. Well, which is it?br /br /The test takes a bit of time–try it for yourself. But I remain a skeptic of this silly biased test–especially a href=”http://michellemalkin.com/archives/004410.htm”since the researchers are giving money to the Democratic Party/a–including Howard Dean. Doesn’t that fact tell you all you need to know about the reliability and validity of their “unbiased” research? And where is any research done by conservative psychologists about liberals? Or is conservative and psychologist an oxymoron?br /br /I also find the researchers conclusions about implicit tests to be laughable. They make the assumption that those with implicit or implied bias would be prejudiced in everyday life. One set of researchers at MIT and the University of Chicagoa href=”http://www.washingtonpost.com/ac2/wp-dyn/A27067-2005Jan21?language=printer” did a study/a where they sent out the exact same resume to potential employers using a white or a black name. The whites got 50% more call backs. Wow, what a scientific study. I did my own similar scientific study in the late 80′s. A good friend of mine in Manhattan was trying to get into a PHD program in clinical psychology. These programs are extremely competitive and hard to get into–sometimes with over 600 applicants and 10 openings. Needless to say, my friend was devastated when she was turned down by every program. She came to me in tears before sending out her next set of applications and asked me what to do to get in. I took a look at her 3.7 grade average from NYU and impeccable credentials and told her to leave everything the same and change her name from her English sounding one to her married name of Gonzalez and mail out the applications. She did and next thing you know, she was swamped with interviews. The only problem? Once they saw her white face, they quickly lost interest. The moral of my little unscientific study? We can all come up with results that match our world views if we try hard enough.

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5th Carnival of Homeschooling

Tuesday, January 31st, 2006

The 5th Carnival of Homeschooling is up and is being hosted by Palmtree Pundit who resides in Hawaii. a href=”http://palmtreepundit.blogspot.com/2006/01/carnival-of-homeschooling.html”Go check it out./a

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Podcast on Boys, Education and Hybrid Cars

Monday, January 30th, 2006

a onblur=”try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}” href=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/1600/popmechcov.jpg”img style=”float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;” src=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/320/popmechcov.jpg” border=”0″ alt=”" //abr /a onblur=”try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}” href=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/1600/guriancovsm.jpg”img style=”float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;” src=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/320/guriancovsm.jpg” border=”0″ alt=”" //abr /We are talking today to a href=”http://www.michaelgurian.com/”Michael Gurian/a, the author of, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=as2path=ASIN/0787977616tag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325″emThe Minds of Boys : Saving Our Sons From Falling Behind in School and Life/em./aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0787977616″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / If you have a boy, are a boy or care about boys, take a listen and gain more information from this expert on the minds of boys. We also have Jim Miegs, the editor of ema href=”http://www.popularmechanics.com/”Popular Mechanics/a/em, giving us the lowdown on hybrid cars–are they hype or happening? You can listen to the podcast by a href=”http://podcasts.instapundit.com/GlennHelenPodcast–GurianandMeigs.mp3″clicking here./abr /br /As always, any comments or suggestions are welcome.br /br /Update: Here is more on hybrid cars at ema href=”http://www.popularmechanics.com/automotive/auto_technology/2154662.html”Popular Mechanics/a/em.

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Self-Made Sexist

Monday, January 30th, 2006

Leave it to a woman at the a href=”http://www.guardian.co.uk/gender/story/0,,1696676,00.html”emGuardian/em/a to provide a sexist description of how she views being a man. In response to Norah Vincent’s emSelf-Made Man/em, this is how the reviewer says she would act as a male: br /br /blockquoteMaybe that’s why male-me would just give up trying to be great and succumb (with regret) to being arrogant, chauvinistic-appalling and subsequently having a whale of a time. I’d have the big red ‘compensating’ car, the smarmy chat-up lines, the commitment-phobia. I’d love ‘em and leave ‘em and, if it comes to it, pretend I never met ‘em. I’d come home to my wife stinking of perfume, with my trousers covered in grass stains, and tell her off for being ‘paranoid’. I’d trample on colleagues ruthlessly and swagger around the office like the undiscovered Donald Trump. I’d read Nuts on the loo because ‘I like the articles’. And there you go. Not only does masculinity suddenly look a lot easier, it also looks a lot more fun. Odd to think, though, that women who are feminists might be more likely to become men who are chauvinists./blockquotebr /br /Lady, you must be one hell of a feminist.

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Don’t Call Me Grandma

Sunday, January 29th, 2006

Does anyone want to stay with the kids anymore? a href=”http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10965522/site/newsweek/page/4/”In this Newsweek article/a, there is mention that 40% of boys are being raised without their father. Now, a href=”http://lifestyle.msn.com/FamilyandParenting/Generations/ArticleMore.aspx?cp-documentid=165003GT1=7608″this MSN article /a says that not only do grandmothers not want to be called Grandma but they are making their grandkids pencil in appointments to see them! The father issue is very important and one that needs to be addressed. But, in addition to fathers being absent, it seems that no one in the extended family wants to hang out with kids anymore–including grandmothers:br /br /blockquoteLook, I’d love to nip over and whisper secrets into 1-month-old Maggie’s ears, or to dress 2-year-old Ryan in the black leather jacket I bought her recently and take her to look for late blackberries in Golden Gate Park on my bike (with its deluxe new kid seat). But I have a job. I’m a reporter, I have two books to write, a husband who wants to go to France, and I just bought an investment property in Portland, Oregon. I love my grandchildren, but being a grandmother got added to my to-do list./blockquote br /br /Wow, this woman puts her grandkids in the same category as buying an investment property in Oregon. It’s no wonder that kids don’t know how to deal with simple human relationships. Here is another grandmother from the same MSN article discussing her feelings about her grandkids, “I love those little kids and I do want to have a relationship with them,” she said. “But I’m not willing to give up my writing or my traveling. I’ll be the best grandmother I can from a distance.”br /br /Yep, better not get to close to the grandkids–they might actually want to see you. As extended families become less influential in children’s lives, I can’t help but think this must affect their ability to learn about the closeness of human interactions. Perhaps the only lesson they take away is that they are just one more chore added to a too-do list and even there, they come up short. Add to this the guilt parents feel about not spending enough time with kids themselves and the never ending material goods being lavished on the little darlings and it’s no wonder kids can be confused and unclear about the importance of human interactions. Extended family also gives kids examples of how other people behave outside of the daycare, school or their immediate family. Grandparents don’t have to go overboard but perhaps not adding the grandkids to the to-do list but rather to the I-would-love-to see-them list would be a start.br /br /Update: Just for the record, for my extended family, particularly the grandparents–please disregard the above–all of you are terrific grandparents who are generous with your time and love for your grandkids, despite your busy schedules.

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Simple Rules for Making an Idiot of Yourself on the Internet

Saturday, January 28th, 2006

I find it hard to believe that John Kerry is posting at the Daily Kos. Perhaps Kerry could use some more tips from the hilarious James Lileks who states:br /br /blockquoteEver since Bush imposed martial law and shot the cast of “The View” — sorry, since Bush won the last election, hard-left nuttery seems more mainstream. Bob Dole did not post on bulletin boards that claimed Bill Clinton would soon use FEMA to herd everyone into U.N.-run camps where everyone would get Mark of the Beast bar codes on their necks. John Kerry, on the other hand, has posted at the Daily Kos, whose neck-vein-popping contributors seem to think Bush spends his nights getting hammered and ordering Halliburton to poison Iraqi water so he can get kickbacks from the Pepto-Bismol Crime Syndicate. /blockquotebr /br /a href=”http://jewishworldreview.com/0106/lileks012606.php3″Read the whole thing./abr /br /Update: Now Ted Kennedy is posting over at the Daily Kos a href=”http://michellemalkin.com/archives/004396.htm”via Michelle Malkin/a–does the Senator have any scruples at all? Oh wait, what am I saying?

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Attitude Problem

Saturday, January 28th, 2006

Have you ever seen traits in yourself that come back to haunt you in your kid? Of course, most of us have. I attended a parent/teacher meeting yesterday for my daughter at her elementary school and the dreaded “attitude problem” reared its head. “Your child is very intelligent,” said one teacher,”but she rolls her eyes at us like she thinks we are idiots.” As I hear this, my own mind floats back over thirty years to first grade where I cursed a teacher for giving us too much homework–I kept this little tidbit to myself but thought about how much genetics plays a part in our dispositions. I used to think my rebelliousness was purely a response to my socialization as a kid, but now I see it is more than that. So my kid is just like me–now what?br /br /I think the key here is “what do you do with characteristics that society says are undesirable at times, but that are part of your psychological make-up and integral to who you are?” I remember once my a href=”http://www.pearsonassessments.com/tests/mmpi_2.htm#quickfacts”MMPI/a results showed that I had a high degree of hostility towards authority but no other “negative” traits. Is this hostility towards authority such a bad thing–especially if someone in authority is an idiot? I am not sure questioning some authority figures is so bad but there are more appropriate ways of dealing with this feeling than cursing at a teacher or rolling one’s eyes when annoyed. I learned over the years to downplay my outright contempt for others as best I could and I turned my anger into a job working with others with the same “authority problems.” br /br /When kids or adults come into my office looking exasperated with “the system” whether that be school, work or society, they generally find a kindred spirit in me. The difference is that I teach them to sublimate their anger or hostility into something more positive or at least not dangerous. So the kid who threatens teachers, caregivers and others learns to channel their anger into working with computers and the adult who feels angry with the system learns to become a political advocate etc. There are always positive ways to channel the energy of anger, rebelliousness, or anti-authoritarianism that can help the individual live a better life and to benefit society. br /br /Anyone else have what society would see as less than desirable traits in themselves that they see in their children and if so, how are you coping with it?

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Hey Buddy, Pass the Glitter

Thursday, January 26th, 2006

Thanks to reader DRJ for pointing out this a href=”http://www.boston.com/news/local/articles/2006/01/26/schoolboys_bias_suit/”article in the Boston Globe /aabout a 17-year-old boy, Doug Anglin, and his father, who have filed a federal civil rights complaint against Milton High School for bias against boys. Even the student body president agrees that there are problems for boys in the high school:br /br /blockquoteAnglin’s complaint has set off a buzz among the 1,000 students at the school. Little, the student body president, said she disagrees with students who think Anglin is chauvinistic.br /br /Of the 22 students in her honors Spanish class, only one is a boy, said Little, a senior. She also said that teachers rarely ask her for a hall pass if she is not in class, while they routinely question boys walking behind her.br /br /As for assignments, she said, one teacher expects students to type up class notes and decorate their notebooks with glitter and feathers.br / br /”You can’t expect a boy to buy pink paper and frills to decorate their notebooks,” Little said./blockquotebr /br /This reminds me of an education class I was forced to take as a requirement for my PHD degree in school/clinical psychology. The professor–a male–told us to keep a log of our activities with students or patients in my case on notebook paper and turn them in for a portion of our grade. I was out for the class when the instructions were given so got the assignment second-hand from other students. I was shocked when I received an F on the assignment–the reason? Writing outside the margins of my paper. The professor cared nothing about the content I had so carefully written out as best I could–he only cared about appearances. I can only imagine what the boys in this high school are going through with such prissy teachers.br /br /Update: a href=”http://drtony.blogspot.com/2006/01/so-who-gets-to-define-normal-anyway.html”Dr. Tony has more thoughts /aon “boys behaving badly.”

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Fourth Homeschooling Blog Carnival

Thursday, January 26th, 2006

The a href=”http://heartkeepercommonroom.blogspot.com/2006/01/fourth-homeschooling-blog-carnival.html”Fourth Homeschooling Blog Carnival /a is up–hosted this time by a href=”http://heartkeepercommonroom.blogspot.com/”The Common Room Blog/a. Go check it out.

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Podcast Interview with Norah Vincent

Wednesday, January 25th, 2006

a href=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/1600/norahcover.jpg”img style=”float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;” src=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/320/norahcover.jpg” border=”0″ alt=”" //abr /Here is our podcast interview with Nora Vincent, the author of a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=as2path=ASIN/0670034665tag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325″Self-Made Man : One Woman’s Journey into Manhood and Back./aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0670034665″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / Norah talks about living as Ned, why boys need fathers, and the next stage of feminism. You can listen to the podcast by a href=”http://instapundit.com/podcasts/norahshow.mp3″clicking here/a (you don’t need an iPod!) or you can listen on iTunes by clicking a href=”http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=116559643s=143441″here./abr /br /There’s some very cool music by a href=”http://www.theantidote.net/music/”Audra and the Antidote/a — check out the words to the opening tune. Hope you like it, and if you have any comments, let me know.br /br /I don’t mean to sound like Oprah but you emmust /emread this book!

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Now Here is a True Psychological Test

Wednesday, January 25th, 2006

h2I’m a Dodge Viper!/h2br /img src=”http://www.tomorrowland.us/sportscar/images/viper.jpg” width=375br /pbYou’re all about raw power. You’re tough, you’re loud, and you don’t take crap from anyone. Leave finesse to the other cars, the ones eating your dust./bpbr /Take the a href=”http://www.tomorrowland.us/sportscar”Which Sports Car Are You?/a quiz.p

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Go Red for Women

Tuesday, January 24th, 2006

I spent the day helping our local tv show, emStyle/em, with a story on women and heart disease. If you would like to see the video of the show that tells what happened during my heart attack and to learn more about women’s symptoms of a heart attack, see the a href=”http://www.wbir.com/video/player.aspx?aid=23164bw=”story here at WBIR/a.

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Conservababe calender

Tuesday, January 24th, 2006

Wow–what an honor to be chosen as one of the “Conservababes” by a href=”http://www.rightwingnews.com/archives/week_2006_01_22.PHP#005100″Right Wing News/a–I guess I would be the May calender woman. Just one problem–I am not really a conservative–unless supporting the war automatically makes one a conservative. I am an independent/libertarian and would probably be an anarchist if left to my own devices.

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Medical Grand Rounds

Tuesday, January 24th, 2006

a href=”http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2006/01/grand-rounds-218.html”Medical Grand Rounds /ais up and is being hosted by a href=”http://www.kevinmd.com/nashuatelegraph.pdf”Kevin, M.D. /aMy a href=”http://drhelen.blogspot.com/2006/01/medical-psychosis.html”medical psychosis post/a is there so I am hoping that some of the medical personnel who read Grand Rounds will have a little more mercy on those of us who have fears about going in for medical procedures.

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Boys are Just "Defective Girls"

Monday, January 23rd, 2006

ema href=”http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10965522/site/newsweek/”Newsweek/em has an article /athis week on the boy crisis, which examines how boys are failing in school. Boys are not only doing poorly, they feel poorly about school: The number of boys who said they didn’t like school rose 71 percent between 1980 and 2001. I found the last paragraph of the article the most important: br /br /blockquoteFor Nikolas Arnold, 15, a sophomore at a public high school in Santa Monica, Calif., college is a distant dream. Nikolas is smart: he’s got an encyclopedic knowledge of weaponry and war. When he was in first grade, his principal told his mother he was too immature and needed ADHD drugs. His mother balked. “Too immature?” says Diane Arnold, a widow. “He was six and a half!” He’s always been an advanced reader, but his grades are erratic. Last semester, when his English teacher assigned two girls’ favorites—”Memoirs of a Geisha” and “The Secret Life of Bees” Nikolas got a D. But lately, he has a math teacher he likes and is getting excited about numbers. He’s reserved in class sometimes. But now that he’s more engaged, his grades are improving slightly and his mother, who’s pushing college, is hopeful he will begin to hit his stride. Girls get A’s and B’s on their report cards, she tells him, but that doesn’t mean boys can’t do it, too./blockquotebr /br /Doesn’t this last line sound just like what we used to tell girls over twenty years ago? “Girls can be as good as boys”, we drilled into kid’s heads in the 1970′s and 80′s–in fact, girls were told that they were better and most of them now believe it (or at least fake it). Are we so angry that girls got the shaft twenty or more years ago that we are willing to sacrifice the education of innocent young boys today to make up for that wrong?br /br /Update:a href=”http://www.michaelgurian.com/” Michal Gurian, /awho is mentioned in the emNewsweek/em article is the author of, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=as2path=ASIN/0787977616tag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325″emThe Minds of Boys : Saving Our Sons From Falling Behind in School and Life/em./aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0787977616″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” /He will be joining us for a podcast next week on the topic of the disconnect between boys and the classroom. If you have a pressing question for Mr. Gurian, leave it in the comment section and I will choose a couple to ask him–thanks!

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Condi’s Childhood

Sunday, January 22nd, 2006

I am a big admirer of Condi Rice, not just for her success as Secretary of State, but because she made it despite the obstacles of growing up as an African American in the South. But rather than wasting their time whining and despairing over their victimhood as minorities, Condi’s parents took action to ensure that their child would succeed. In Dick Morris’s book, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=as2path=ASIN/0060839139tag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325″emCondi vs. Hillary : The Next Great Presidential Race/em,/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0060839139″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” /Morris decribes Condi’s childhood and shows us why she could be a great president. br /br /Not long after Rosa Parks refused to give up her bus seat but prior to President Johnson signing the 1964 Civil Rights Act into law, Condi’s mother showed her daughter how to stand up to racism. While shopping as a young girl with her mother at a local department store, an employee told them that they could not use the “whites only” dressing room and would have to try on their clothes in the back storage closet. Condi’s mother refused and the employee relented and let them use the dressing room, all the while worrying that she would lose her job for doing so. On another trip, a white saleswomen told seven-year-old Condi to get her hands off a hat–her mother encouraged her to touch every hat in the store. Condi’s lesson–people can tell you what to do but you don’t have to listen. br /br /After the a href=”http://www.english.uiuc.edu/maps/poets/m_r/randall/birmingham.htm”1963 Sixteenth Street Baptist Church bombing /awhich took the lives of four little girls–two of whom Condi knew personally–Condi learned that Birmingham was not a safe place. She also learned how brave her father was when he armed himself with a shotgun and joined other men in the black community in night patrols to keep the Ku Klux Klan out of their neighborhood. But rather than let fear overtake her and make her feel like a victim, she instead learned an important lesson–the value of the Second Amendment guarantee of the “right to bear arms”. br /br /Morris’s book points out that Condi was “entirely focused on individual self-improvement. She never ran for any office in school and remained separate and apart, a prodigy who mastered every manner of musical instrument. …The Rice family did not need a hand out or a hand up. Condi would move ahead on her own.”br /br /I think this independence is what liberals hate about Condi Rice. She represents a woman who does not need them or their slogan of victimhood. This drives them crazy–so much so that they even look past her fairly moderate stance on abortion and the fact that she is an African American female who would make an amazing president.

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Medical Psychosis

Saturday, January 21st, 2006

I have to admit–I am afraid to go to the doctor. I have always hated hospitals–they seemed so depressing and scary–which is why I have a PhD and not an MD; I figured fainting at the sight of blood would probably be a bad quality in a doctor. While I am over the fainting at blood part, (you get used to all the blood drawing when you have a href=”http://drhelen.blogspot.com/2005/10/more-than-you-wanted-to-know-about-my.html”heart problems/a) just the thought of going to a medical facility starts my heart palpitating. Yesterday, it was time for another three month check-up of my a href=”http://www.hrspatients.org/patients/treatments/default.asp”ICD/a. My check up was with a heart rhythm specialist who does an interrogation of my cardiac device by hooking me up to a computer and running a magnet over my chest to control the defibrillator. Somehow, just the thought of someone else being able to control my heart is enough to send me over the edge.br /br /In preparation for my appointment, I packed an interesting book, bottled water and some food to calm my nerves after it was over. However, I found that nothing could distract me once the doctor started talking. I can usually interpret with fair accuracy what my own clients are trying to tell me but my translation of what a doctor is saying about my medical condition is so far off the mark, I sometimes wonder if a diagnosis of “medical psychosis” should be added to my chart. My translation goes something like this:br /br /strongDoctor/strong: Hi, I’m Dr. so and so, nice to meet you. br /br /strongMy Translation/strong: I’m here to give you your last rites.br /br /strongDoctor/strong: Your potassium is a little low.br /br /strongMy Translation/strong: You’re lucky your heart is beating at all.br /br /strongDoctor/strong: Your heart is beating a little fast, are you nervous?br /br /strongMy Translation/strong: Your heart is pounding out of your skin, you’ll be lucky to make it out of this office without a major heart attack.br /br /strongDoctor:/strong Did you have a nice Christmas Holiday?br /br /strongMy Translation/strong: You’re damn lucky you made it to Christmas.br /br /strongDoctor/strong: We’re going to try some new meds.br /br /strongMy Translation/strong: Lord knows, the old meds weren’t working–it’s amazing you made it into the office without a gurney.br /br /strongDocto/strongr: Well, we’re all done, see you in six months!br /br /strongMy Translation/strong: Sucker! You’ll be lucky if you make it three.br /br /Well, you get the idea. For my next appointment, I think I’ll bring a tape recorder so I can actually hear what the doctor said!br /br /Update: a href=”http://shrinkette.blogspot.com/2006/01/what-dr-helen-hears.html”Shrinkette /ahas more on why it might be risky for doctors to reassure patients.

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It’s Another Podcast!

Friday, January 20th, 2006

a href=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/1600/baydunnigan.jpg”img style=”float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;” src=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/320/baydunnigan.jpg” border=”0″ alt=”" //abr /Worried about Iran and nuclear weapons? Maybe you should be. We interviewed military and intelligence experts a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=ur2tag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325path=external-search%3Fsearch-type=ss%26index=books%26keyword=Austin%20Bay”Austin Bay/a and a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=ur2tag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325path=external-search%3Fsearch-type=ss%26index=books%26keyword=James%20Dunnigan”Jim Dunnigan,/a and they had a lot to say. Some of it is reassuring, and some of it isn’t.br /br /To hear the podcast, a href=”http://instapundit.com/podcasts/DunniganBayshow012006.mp3″click here./a (No iPod required!) You can also get it via iTunes by clicking a href=”http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=116559643s=143441″here./abr /br /Austin Bay’s blog is a href=”http://austinbay.net/blog/”here,/a and Jim Dunnigan publishes a href=”http://www.strategypage.com”StrategyPage,/a a military and intelligence website.br /br /As always, let us know what you think in the comments.

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Self -Made Man

Thursday, January 19th, 2006

Author Norah Vincent has a new book coming out this week, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=as2path=ASIN/0670034665tag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325″emSelf-Made Man: One Woman’s Journey into Manhood and Back/em,/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0670034665″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / in which she describes how she disguised herself as a man for eighteen months and what she learned. The most important lessons? To women, she says, “Men aren’t what you think.” To men, she says,”You have it harder than people know.” She gives us insight into what it is like to date women, what it is like to relate to other men as a man, and who men are when women aren’t around.br /br /The book is just now coming out and here is what other blogs are saying about it: a href=”http://feminine-genius.typepad.com/femininegenius/2006/01/a_walk_on_the_w.html”Feminine-genius blog /areally gets it and says to other women, “Assess ladies. Where is our part in all of this?” a href=”http://bornavol.blogspot.com/2006/01/self-made-man-has-trouble-with-women.html”Dadvocate /a asks why he has to pass a test to date a woman? and a href=”http://mistersnitch.blogspot.com/2006/01/just-scratch-this-post-on-our.html”Mr. Snitch/a says that emSelf-Made Man /emhits a nerve. br /br /I look forward to talking with author Norah Vincent in a scheduled podcast about her book next week–it will be interesting to hear her experiences directly from her.br /br /Update: a href=”http://immodestproposals.blogspot.com/2006/01/war-on-war.html” Immodest Proposals blog /asays I am leading a “one woman charge against the ‘War on men.’” I hope a discussion is not considered a war but if so, I think there are far more people leading it–think Warren Farrell, Christina Hoff Summers, and now maybe, Norah Vincent!

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Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say

Thursday, January 19th, 2006

Who says men don’t share their feelings? 125 comments and growing in the a href=”http://drhelen.blogspot.com/2006/01/marrying-wellmake-that-why-marry.html”post about men and marriage./a I must admit that reading these comments has made me wince–with pain and sadness for some of the writers–as well as with anger that so many of our laws have unfairly turned against men in order to give women the upper hand in the domestic arena. I can understand why some men stay away from marriage and relationships in general.br /br /Many men in the thread seemed to be wondering where women get this sense of entitlement–that men are supposed to support them, please them, listen to everything they have to say and respond with no judgement at all. I can only fathom that it comes from being told that girls are precious and boys are scum. “Men are pigs” is so common that no one bats an eye anymore–even men throw out this phrase as it is branded into their psyche from a young age. The other day I was at a restaurant and the waitress was pregnant. I told her congrats and asked if she knew the sex of her child. “Thank God it’s a girl”, she quipped, “we don’t need to bring any more boys into the world.” Uhh…we don’t? Why not? Apparently, the prejudice against boys starts in the womb. And the sad thing is, we are all going along with it–even the men. br /br /So what do we do to change the negative attitudes (and hopefully, the unfair laws against men in marriage etc.)? We change our own attitudes and behavior when interacting with each other. Men don’t have to go overboard but being strong and silent has never held more negative consequences for men. Speak up in relationships with women and tell them a little about how you feel. If a woman calls a man a jerk, speak up and say this is unfair and belittling–do not agree for goodness sakes! That will only reinforce stereotypes. Do not go along with everything a woman says in order to get sex–unless you just want sex and nothing else. Call her on her bad attitude and tell her to cut it out–it shows little respect for her fellow human beings. br /br /And sometimes women can be so intent on bashing men that they stop listening. Warren Farrell has a book entitled, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=as2path=ASIN/087477988Xtag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325″emWomen Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say: Destroying Myths, Creating Love/em,/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=087477988X” width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”" style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / that describes some of the problems with male bashing and man hating. Changing this begins not only with men but with women–we need to chastise the female chauvinistic behavior of other women–not reinforce it by yelling, “You go, girl!” Women who yell “all men are pigs” and see women as saints are nothing but trouble. And other women and men who go along with this attitude are contributing to the problem. It is no longer funny and cute that women feel this way–it is destructive and adding to problems between the sexes in the courts and in relationships. Women should realize that men have feelings also, they are not automatons who march to their every whim and desire. Women who need that much admiration and support need a therapist, not a partner. br /br /Anyone out there have other ideas to reduce the negative attitudes about males so prevalent in our society?

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Dr. Sanity’s Best of the Psychosphere

Wednesday, January 18th, 2006

Dr. Sanity is taking a look at mental health blogging this week and a href=”http://drhelen.blogspot.com/2006/01/marrying-wellmake-that-why-marry.html”my previous post /aon marriage piqued her interest. a href=”http://drsanity.blogspot.com/2006/01/touch-and-go_18.html”Go take a look./a

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The Carnival of Homeschooling is Up

Tuesday, January 17th, 2006

a href=”http://whyhomeschool.blogspot.com/2006/01/carnival-of-homeschooling-week-3.html”Go check out the Carnival of Homeschooling–week 3/a. I found a href=”http://key-words.blogspot.com/2006/01/thank-goodness-we-dont-need.html”this link /ato an a href=”http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10753446/site/newsweek/”article by George Will /aquite interesting:br /br /blockquoteIn 2002 the National Council for Accreditation of Teacher Education declared that a “professional disposition” is “guided by beliefs and attitudes related to values such as caring, fairness, honesty, responsibility, and social justice.” Regarding that last, the Chronicle reports that the University of Alabama’s College of Education proclaims itself “committed to preparing individuals to”—what? “Read, write and reason”? No, “to promote social justice, to be change agents, and to recognize individual and institutionalized racism, sexism, homophobia, and classism,” and to “break silences” about those things and “develop anti-racist, anti-homophobic, anti-sexist community [sic] and alliances.”/blockquotebr /br /Wow, time for indoctrination but our kids can’t read or reason–no wonder so many parents are homeschooling. But my real question is, with the shortage of male teachers, who is “breaking the silence” about institutionalized sexism?br /br /Udate: a href=”http://althouse.blogspot.com/2006/01/gender-gap-in-education.html” Ann Althouse /aalso discusses the gender gap in education.

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Podcast #3 with Ana Marie Cox and Musician Todd Steed

Tuesday, January 17th, 2006

a href=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/1600/toddsphere.jpg”img style=”float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;” src=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/320/toddsphere.jpg” border=”0″ alt=”" //abr /a href=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/1600/anamariecox.jpg”img style=”float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;” src=”http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/750/48/320/anamariecox.jpg” border=”0″ alt=”" //abr /We have an interesting discussion with Ana Marie Cox, the ex-Wonkette, and internet musician, Todd Steed. Ana Marie discusses women bloggers, sex, her new book(s) and how she feels about quitting the blogosphere. We also discuss, drugs, high school and rock and roll with Todd Steed– a href=”http://www.instapundit.com/podcasts/toddana2show.mp3″Take a listen here/a to the podcast. Or subscribe via a href=”http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=116559643s=143441″iTunes/a or the a href=”http://instapundit.com/index_podcast.xml”RSS Feed/a.br /br /If this interests you, check out Ana Marie’s novel, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=as2path=ASIN/1594489017tag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325″iDog Days,/i/a and Todd Steed’s new CD, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect?link_code=as2path=ASIN/B0009ZBQ54tag=wwwviolentkicomcamp=1789creative=9325″iHeart Break and Duct Tape,/i/a some of which you can also hear online for free a href=”http://www.myspace.com/toddsteedandthesunsofphere”here./abr /br /And, as always, if you’ve got any suggestions, put them in the comments!br /br /Update: For those of you who just want a highlight of the podcast in written form–a href=”http://sisu.typepad.com/sisu/2006/01/exwonkette_ana_.html”sisu has it here./a

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Marrying Well….Make That, Why Marry?

Tuesday, January 17th, 2006

I started out this post thinking I would be writing about all the wonders of marrying well (I did, but that is a whole other story) but after reading over some of the reasons men don’t want to marry, I started wondering if marriage was such a good deal for men. I have read recently that fewer and fewer men are getting married. Perhaps this is for the best but when I read a href=”http://bornavol.blogspot.com/2006/01/to-date-of-not-to-date.html”stories like this/a, I feel sad. Maybe I shouldn’t and men who don’t marry really have the best deal, but I can’t help but feel that some men who want families will miss out because of politics and really bad advice. a href=”http://www.ejfi.org/Civilization/Civilization-9.htm”Here is an example /aof the political problems men feel they face in marriage:br /br /blockquoteMen are refusing to marry, says a report just released from Rutgers University. Professor David Popenoe attributes his finding to a fear of “commitment” by men and the ease of obtaining sex outside marriage.br /br /Yet the men themselves express a weightier explanation of why they fear marriage: For many men, starting a family is a one-way ticket to jail, and even worse. Glenn Sacks and Dianna Thompson, [in the preceding article], found that many men now realize that any family they start can simply be taken away from them at any time, through forced divorce. Worse, once you have a child you become a likely candidate for false accusations of molestation, impossible child support payments, jail, and suicide./blockquotebr /br /Here is a href=”http://www.nomarriage.com/why_men_should_not_marry.html”some of the advice /aguys are getting from other men about marriage:br /br /blockquoteWhat I’m saying is that human beings are nasty weak treacherous creatures that are for the most part totally untrustworthy. Experience is my basis for this statement, both mine and others who I know or who have written reliable histories. If you can find a woman to be your companion who is not treacherous, a deceitful little actress, a sly whore or a manipulative nag or a shrieking hag, then you are among the lucky few. Congratulations. I hope your luck continues to hold out./blockquotebr /br /Wow…are women that bad? I would think there would be some really wonderful women out there who would make great companions. Hint–it’s probably not the one who wants a $10,000.00 engagement ring from a guy who makes only double that a year. br /br /Are there any guys out there who have had some positive experiences with marriage that you could share?

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